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[–]blahblahgcer[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yeah I had to leave a lot of the trans spaces. Even now, thinking about trans topics kind of makes my dysphoria ramp up and brings back memories of why I wanted to be trans in the first place. It's especially hard when my female friends start IDing as trans.

[–]ReignRain95 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah same :/ The only reason at the time that kept me from transitioning was that I knew i’d never be a real man. I still have lots of issues around it, can I ask how you’re doing or how you’re dealing with it?

[–]blahblahgcer[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Actually, quarantine has helped with it a lot. I think it's the thing about not being forced to like.. present a certain way? Like I don't have to worry about wearing a sweatshirt constantly to cover my chest because nobody's gonna see it, and then when I do go outside, I'm so used to not wearing a sweatshirt, I don't worry about it. And also getting more involved in feminist and women spaces has helped a ton, between the "transitioning won't actually solve your problems" and the empowerment it gives, it's been super helpful for me.

[–]ReignRain95 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ive noticed mine gets worse with presenting myself and people perceiving me a certain way too. When I haven't seen people in a while I can kind of ignore it and not think about it but when I really start to think about it or I go in public more often it gets worse. Im glad youre doing though! If you don't mind if you want to talk about it in private messages I have no one to talk to about this kind of stuff. And definitely no one who is similar.

[–]blahblahgcer[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't mind at all! I'd love to continue this conversation in PMs <3