So RIP the Subreddit that saved me from being trans.

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[–]ReignRain95 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Im pretty sure im on the spectrum too and always had problems with this stuff and the way women were seen and treated and I just didn’t want to be associated with it at all. I considered being trans for about a year and hung around subs like the egg one but never told anyone or did anything about it. I actually did struggle with dysphoria but im sure hanging around places like that and always thinking and obsessing over it made it 10x worse. Ive stopped looking at anything trans or anything that would trigger me and I realized a lot of the time im okay with being female, its just how they’re viewed and treated that triggers me. I associated being male with having control and safety. I really loved the GC sub and its really unfair that its gone. TRA stuff has gona way too far.

[–]blahblahgcer[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yeah I had to leave a lot of the trans spaces. Even now, thinking about trans topics kind of makes my dysphoria ramp up and brings back memories of why I wanted to be trans in the first place. It's especially hard when my female friends start IDing as trans.

[–]ReignRain95 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah same :/ The only reason at the time that kept me from transitioning was that I knew i’d never be a real man. I still have lots of issues around it, can I ask how you’re doing or how you’re dealing with it?

[–]blahblahgcer[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Actually, quarantine has helped with it a lot. I think it's the thing about not being forced to like.. present a certain way? Like I don't have to worry about wearing a sweatshirt constantly to cover my chest because nobody's gonna see it, and then when I do go outside, I'm so used to not wearing a sweatshirt, I don't worry about it. And also getting more involved in feminist and women spaces has helped a ton, between the "transitioning won't actually solve your problems" and the empowerment it gives, it's been super helpful for me.

[–]ReignRain95 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ive noticed mine gets worse with presenting myself and people perceiving me a certain way too. When I haven't seen people in a while I can kind of ignore it and not think about it but when I really start to think about it or I go in public more often it gets worse. Im glad youre doing though! If you don't mind if you want to talk about it in private messages I have no one to talk to about this kind of stuff. And definitely no one who is similar.

[–]blahblahgcer[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't mind at all! I'd love to continue this conversation in PMs <3