GC: What's a good age-appropriate way to explain to an 8 year old boy why it would be creepy, wrong, and disrespectful towards women for him to get earrings for Christmas like his sisters received, without making him feel like he's creepy and wrong himself?

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[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Do you think that random screenshots from people who may or may not have gender critical views is really the best way to understand what gender criticism actually is?

A man who wears a dress is fine. A man who wears a dress and claims that doing so is womanhood is extremely sexist. I’d be doing a disservice if I treated people like Alok Venon or J Yaniv as authorities on gender identity, and I feel you are doing a disservice by ignoring gender critical content for anecdotes from people who might just be being a bully.

[–]citydweller1[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Do you think that random screenshots from people who may or may not have gender critical views is really the best way to understand what gender criticism actually is?

Certainly not. I wouldn't want to suggest that opposition to male GNC expression is an element of mainstream gender critical feminist thinking, that'd simply be untrue. On the other hand, I figured if anyone knew how opposition to male GNC expression could fit in a feminist framework rather than as an iteration of misogynistic stereotypes etc... then there's a good chance it'd be someone in this crowd.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, gender critical feminism is absolutely not against gender nonconforming boys and men. Gender nonconformity is natural, normal, human experience.

Assigning a sex to items like earrings or hammers or colours is nonsensical. It can’t be described to you in a sensible way. There’s no sense or logic behind it, just sex stereotypes all the way down.

A man who wears a dress is doing nothing to women, we don’t care at all. There’s nothing about it that says anything other than this man wears his clothes. When a man puts on the dress and declares he is a woman because he is doing something his culture has associated as “woman’s thing” he is defining women as anyone who participates in his warped idea of what womanhood is.

There is no offence or disgust when a man simply does his thing. Nobody here is bothered if a dude enjoys crochet or frocks.