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[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I guess the hard part is the expectation that I will learn to mistrust and ignore my perceptions and adopt the thoughts and language of whoever is in front of me.

Feels extremely unhealthy.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It's not unhealthy to respect someone's pronouns. In fact if you met Buck for the first time and didn't know he was trans, you would perceive him as a man.

[–]cars 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Buck Angel is perceptibly female. I might get confused at first because Buck is bald and bearded, but I would be able to clock them as female. I can do this because I am male, which means I have an easier time spotting if a masculine-presenting person is female. Women can do the same thing for feminine-presenting people.

[–]penelopekitty 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's clear Buck is female. There are many clues including voice, hands, stance, demeanor and movement. Many people can pass in a photo but video and IRL there are too many clues. I'm a woman and I can correctly sex people in person or video 100% of the time.

[–]adungitit 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's easy to say that after the fact. Among people there is quite a variety in voice, appearance, movements, demeanor etc. Insisting that you can always tell with 100% certainty is delusional and I don't believe it for a second