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[–]Lizzythelezzo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes, I actually know quite a few - several have been roommates, plus I know quite a few as friends/acquaintances in my social networks. I even dated one a few years ago, so I have a lot of first-hand experience with trans identified people, including FTMs, NBs and MTFs.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thanks so much for sharing!!! Wow, those sound like close relationships!

Feel free not to answer if this is too personal, but did this person you dated identify as trans before you started dating or did they begin identifying during the relationship? Everyone is different and I don’t know if they were FTM, NB, or MTF, but I’m just curious if there was anything super different for you compared to dating someone who wasn’t trans?

[–]Lizzythelezzo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes the person I dated identified as trans before we met, and I hadn't really had any exposure to trans people up to that point. I had been religious for many years so it was all new to me and I was open minded.

I guess I would say their transition was like a third person in the relationship, who was a higher priority than me. So it felt like I was in a polyamorous relationship where the gender identity/transition was the primary partner and I was just the secondary partner. Also the person I dated had frequent dissociative episodes and eventually admitted they have BPD and narcissistic traits. There was a lot of self hatred and self destructive behaviour because they disliked their body, including eating disorder issues.

I have noticed all of this is very common in the trans community as a whole. Overall it was quite a dysfunctional relationship but it definitely opened up my eyes and I learned a lot.