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[–]Lizzythelezzo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes the person I dated identified as trans before we met, and I hadn't really had any exposure to trans people up to that point. I had been religious for many years so it was all new to me and I was open minded.

I guess I would say their transition was like a third person in the relationship, who was a higher priority than me. So it felt like I was in a polyamorous relationship where the gender identity/transition was the primary partner and I was just the secondary partner. Also the person I dated had frequent dissociative episodes and eventually admitted they have BPD and narcissistic traits. There was a lot of self hatred and self destructive behaviour because they disliked their body, including eating disorder issues.

I have noticed all of this is very common in the trans community as a whole. Overall it was quite a dysfunctional relationship but it definitely opened up my eyes and I learned a lot.