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[–]Juniperius 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ofc sex is relevant but for me socially the sex I'm perceived to be is usually more relevant.

One of the major differences between men and women is that for women, our sex, the biological reality of our bodies, is much harder to ignore. It intrudes upon our attention all the time. We have to take it into consideration constantly. For men, their sex is much less salient. The main way sex matters for men is socially; ie, they are accorded all sorts of privileges based on their sex.

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I would say that my biology intrudes upon me more than pre-transition but less than most women I know. That doesn't change how I identify or live, though. I'm just saying transitioning is an ongoing maintenance to keep my biology tolerable to me and that it isn't easy. I doubt being out at work would get me treated better either, even if it did I won't risk it.