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[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (15 children)

The fact that you refer to trans women as "males" will more likely cause people to accuse you of transphobia.

Anyway, Keira Bell is a detransitioned woman and I can understand how how someone like her in appearance and voice could be mistaken for a trans woman.

Also I think its obvious I'm referring to trans women who don't pass.

[–]MarkTwainiac 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (14 children)

The fact that you refer to trans women as "males" will more likely cause people to accuse you of transphobia.

Yeah, so? I've been called worse; and I can take it. It's you I was talking about. I thought appearing transphobic is something you'd want to avoid at all costs, and being accused of transphobia is something you might be concerned about.

Tellingly, you didn't address any of my points. Instead, you immediately brought up Keira Bell and tried to make it seem like the issue you raised is whether

someone like her in appearance and voice could be mistaken for a trans woman.

Which is ridiculous. Look at Bell's face, hands, feet, body shape, bone structure and the way Bell moves and walks.

Keira Bell is also totally beside the point in this particular convo, which you started. Because you specifically asked

GC: How would you react if you saw a trans woman in the women's restroom?

Or someone who appears to be a trans woman?

Now you say:

I think its obvious I'm referring to trans women who don't pass.

But I thought passing didn't matter? That trans people don't owe it to the world to do anything to change their appearance to try to pass as the opposite sex. Because everyone is just supposed to believe that trans people are whatever sex they say they are.

Also, since you brought up "passing": who decides who "passes"? Most males who identify as trans think and insist that they pass, but many female people like me disagree. Whose perception do you think should win out here?

The central point remains: the questions you raised are a tacit admission that you believe women (who are GC) can always, usually or frequently tell when males are in women's restrooms, no matter how those males identify or present. This goes against the fundamental part of the QT creed which says that none of us can ever tell because it's impossible for anyone to figure out if adult and post-pubescent males are actually male without "looking in their pants" and doing DNA tests.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (13 children)

Yeah, so? I've been called worse; and I can take it. It's you I was talking about. I thought appearing transphobic is something you'd want to avoid at all costs, and being accused of transphobia is something you might be concerned about.

I have multiple reddit accounts and on one of them I used to regularly post on r/gendercynical a few years back and no one ever accused me of transphobia. I have never once been accused of transphobia in my life.

Which is ridiculous. Look at Bell's face, hands, feet, body shape, bone structure and the way Bell moves and walks.

There are people who are assigned male at birth with the same features.

But I thought passing didn't matter?

Passing ultimately doesn't matter but a passing trans woman will of course not be questioned in the woman's restroom so in this context it's relevant.

Also, since you brought up "passing": who decides who "passes"? Most males who identify as trans think and insist that they pass, but many female people like me disagree. Whose perception do you think should win out here?

My question is ultimately referring to anyone who is perceived by GC as a trans woman. Some trans woman do pass, like Jazz Jennings, Laverne Cox and MJ Rodriguez. Caitlyn Jenner doesn't pass but that's just my perception.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

Jazz Jennings and Laverne cox do not pass in any situation.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 1 insightful - 4 fun1 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 4 fun -  (11 children)

If I didn't know they were trans I wouldn't be able to tell they are trans just by looking at them or hearing them.

[–]BiologyIsReal 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Wait, but isn't Laverne Cox that huge dude who appears in a well-known picture where he is standing next to a short woman who is about half his height? If so, there is no way he "pass", even if he weren't a celebrity. And I know you'll point out that there are some very tall women too, but they are rare. Laverne Cox's height alone should draw enough attention to himself that anyone who met him would notice his other male features later.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

Cox is 5′ 11 so she isn't super tall and tall cis women aren't rare. I know a few of them.

[–]BiologyIsReal 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Let's use real data. According to this height percentile calculator, a 5 feet 11 inches man is taller than 77.07% of adult males from the US. In constranst a 5 feet 11 inches woman is taller than 99.88% of adult females from the US. So, I stand by what I said: Laverne Cox stands out because of his height.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 1 insightful - 6 fun1 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 6 fun -  (4 children)

OK, but Cox uses she/her pronouns and everyone should respect that.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Why?

[–]MarkTwainiac 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's not just Cox's height, though. Cox is large all over. Large head, shoulders. Just a big person who tends to dwarf a lot of other people. Men as well as women, but especially the women.

https://www.gettyimages.co.uk/detail/news-photo/actress-laverne-cox-and-her-mother-gloria-cox-attend-the-news-photo/614477874

https://www.zimbio.com/photos/Laverne+Cox/Elliot+Page/LV9bDS2XqIA/25th+Annual+GLAAD+Media+Awards+Backstage

https://m.imdb.com/name/nm2914715/mediaviewer/rm2887365377?context=default

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/laverne-cox-and-rita-moreno-attend-the-13th-annual-outfest-news-photo/865258976?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/laverne-cox-and-rosario-dawson-attend-tribeca-tv-festivals-news-photo/1038129590?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/pictured-laverne-cox-and-rosanna-arquette-news-photo/1006191860?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/sarah-jessica-parker-and-laverne-cox-attend-the-planned-news-photo/953564194?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/trudie-styler-and-laverne-cox-attend-the-2017-outfest-los-news-photo/816110678?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/laverne-cox-and-marlee-matlin-attend-the-academy-museum-of-news-photo/1345723686?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/lisa-kudrow-laverne-cox-and-dan-bucatinsky-attend-the-who-news-photo/968046890?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/adrienne-bailon-laverne-cox-and-jeannie-mai-attend-the-news-photo/854596658?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/actresses-elizabeth-mclaughlin-gabrielle-carteris-awkwafina-news-photo/1072209364?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/actresses-gabrielle-carteris-laverne-cox-and-awkwafina-news-photo/1072209258?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/laverne-cox-and-maxine-waters-attend-families-belong-news-photo/988397030?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/todays-guest-include-laverne-cox-and-meghan-mccain-on-news-photo/457233328?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/cupp-and-jason-biggs-guest-co-host-kate-hudson-and-emmy-news-photo/452546272?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/netflix-chief-content-officer-and-co-ceo-ted-sarandos-and-news-photo/1392865875?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/co-ceo-and-chief-content-officer-at-netflix-ted-sarandos-news-photo/1392853807?adppopup=true

https://www.glaad.org/blog/listen-your-children-access-hollywood-speaks-laverne-coxs-mother-gloria-backstage-glaadawards

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/dwayne-johnson-and-laverne-cox-attend-the-peoples-choice-news-photo/1357819947?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/laverne-cox-abd-jussie-smollett-attend-the-26th-annual-news-photo/472808126?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/co-ceo-and-chief-content-officer-at-netflix-ted-sarandos-news-photo/1392844906?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/jimmy-kimmel-live-airs-every-weeknight-at-11-35-p-m-est-and-news-photo/614699128?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/darren-criss-and-laverne-cox-attend-the-25th-annual-screen-news-photo/1090492998?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/actor-wilson-cruz-and-laverne-cox-celebrate-at-beverly-news-photo/965870886?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/news-photo/1095510162?adppopup=true

https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/if-it-aint-burke-dont-fix-it-episode-405-pictured-laverne-news-photo/514345636?adppopup=true

[–]Juniperius 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Have you watched Orange is the New Black? Laverne Cox towers over all the women, he isn't shaped at all like them, and he's got the voice and mannerisms of a "flaming" gay man. There is nothing the slightest bit woman-like about him.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And yet hundreds, thousands, of other people were able to at a glance.

How come you answer this but not me asking if you thought we’d be starting fights or attacking the men in question.