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[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Hormones worked for me : P

I don't think anyone is beyond help, I guess, we shouldn't stop trying to save people

I recognize that some who are suicidal don't want help but I feel like it's dangerous to assume that, we should still try to help even if it's pointless

[–]MarkTwainiac 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Hormones worked for me : P

You are one person, though. Your experience is not representative of the experience of the rest of the human race, FFS. Your personal experience is especially not representative of those who are female, with female anatomy and physiology, or those who have experienced severe clinical depression with genuine suicidal ideation in a seriously life-limiting/disabling way for a sustained length of time.

As one of the tens of millions of women summarily yanked off and then denied exogenous estrogen for menopause because of the findings of the Women's Health Initiative Study released in 2002 - as well as one of the many people who's had to make do and muddle through despite experiencing severe treatment-resistant clinical depression for a lot longer than you've been alive - I find the way you talk of suicide and the sex hormone estradiol to be very flip, superficial, callow, massively entitled and very insensitive. Indeed, it comes off to me as kinda callous. I know that's not what you intend, but since you are so hyper-focused on, and worried about, how others perceive you, I think it's worth mentioning.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

As one of the tens of millions of women summarily yanked off and then denied exogenous estrogen for menopause because of the findings of the Women's Health Initiative Study Results study released in 2002

That sounds awful, I'm so sorry :(

Yeah I don't blame you, hormone imbalance always contributes to my depression as well, the times I've been missing medication weren't pleasant. I definitely think you should have access to that if you want it.

I know that's not what you intend, but since you are so hyper-focused on and worried about how others perceive you, I think it's worth mentioning.

I used to worry about it a ton with people online but now I would rather be honest than be afraid to say what I'm thinking, I guess. But I'm not like, an unfeeling person or anything, I don't wish badly on anyone here.

And idk how I could "represent" cis women or female anatomy and physiology with my thoughts, because I'm not a cis woman.

[–]MarkTwainiac 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I appreciate you engaging. You have put up with a lot of opposition here in the past couple of days, and you have been a really good sport about it. You could have just packed off in a huff long ago.

Since I've given you negative feedback, here's a bit of positive: you're showing a considerable amount of "good faith" and resilience. I find that very impressive and admirable. I tip my hat to you.

I really do wish you well. Please if you go ahead with your surgeries, let people here know. Take care.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Thanks! Idk I don't let myself be angry, especially not over this. Hating anyone just eats at me so I try to speak in good faith, I guess.

Also wait, why would I tell people here when I get surgery? Like, do you mean based on my results?

[–]MarkTwainiac 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I said please let us know about the surgery/ies so we can cross our fingers for you, and root for you. Some posters might even say a prayer for you too. On the quiet, of course. Also, to let us know that you are okay afterwards.

And if it goes swimmingly and turns out as wonderful as you hope, so you can shout in our faces: See, I told you so!

But no pressure. I didn't mean to be prying. The important thing is to take care of yourself.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I have a lot going on right now so surgery is kind of on the back burner :( but ig I'd be okay talking about it afterwards.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I would like to know you’re well after surgery. No details about your body are needed, but I’ll hope you’re recovering well.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah the hardest bit is finding the time to take off work so I can have time to recover. I'll probably just tell them I'm going on vacation.