Y'all always pull the male socialized card and it seems malicious tbh, but no, my upbringing hasn't made me blind. I've seen how gross and perverted men can be, I just didn't see it as much growing up. It's horrible to hear that a lot of girls first experience that as teens or younger.

Patriarchy is insidious and the behavior of bad men needs to be addressed, but that shouldn't change that we should expect adults to keep their bedroom life to themselves? Like, if you have an issue with individual people on WPATH then yeah I agree, but the problem is never just having a kink, because people don't decide that. It's their learned bad behavior.

Also it's not just you they target. I've been sexually assaulted and groped on public transport, catcalled at, had to walk home at night with a man following me, etc, all because they thought I was a woman regardless of any "truth". They target anyone who passes the exact same way, and they target anyone who doesn't pass with homophobia.

So like, do I have confidence that most men can keep their fetishes to themselves? No tbh, but I'm still going to say that they should, that's the expectation, and individually judge whether someone is breaking it.