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[–]MarkTwainiac 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

You still have not explained why you believe what you believe, or how it benefits women, children and society as a whole.

You've simply repeated that you believe what you believe and claimed that the majority of "cis" people agree with you. But still you've not spelled out any of the reasons why you believe that ending all sex segregation is a good thing.

Please take some time to share who will benefit from the policies you promote, and explain exactly how. And tell us who will be disadvantaged and harmed by what you advocate, and in what ways.

You also have narrowed down the convo only to restrooms. OP asked about all spaces that are currently sex-segregated. Which include communal restrooms but go much beyond and also include shelters, hospital wards/rooms, locker and changing rooms, fitting rooms, nursing home rooms, exercise classes and facilities, domestic violence and IPV refuges, rape crisis centers, prisons and jails, women & children's sections of refugee camps, breastfeeding lounges, workplace lactation rooms, health clinics...

Instead of discussing any of these areas, you simply say

Restrooms have stalls, so unless I don't lock the door I have all the privacy I need in the world, regardless of who is washing their bands next to me.

As if all we were talking about here is washing hands.

Tellingly, you have also - once again - narrowed the convo down to your personal experience as if you are the only person on the planet who counts. You say

I have all the privacy I need in the world

As if no one else on earth matters. You either are unaware that others have different needs to yours, or you just don't give a crap because the only person visible in your world view is yourself.

You are advocating sweeping changes to public policies, laws and social conventions and customs that affect the entire human population of planet earth. But all you can talk about is your own individual self.

I asked about the impact of what you promote on breastfeeding practices around the world, how our whole species will be affected, and how especially this will impact the world's poorest people. In response you say

I am a cis woman. I am also an Ashkenazi Jew, learning disabled and I have been a teenage girl and a victim of sexual harassment numerous times... A few weeks ago a strange man on the street made me uncomfortable. Even if a few men are sexually harassing me, I can't expect all men to be banned from the street that time in the evening, or banned from that particular area. Nor do I want this. My privacy is also not violated by having a man in the women's restroom.

As though this is all about you, and only you. Your experience, your privacy, your needs, your own narrow life experience. Listen to yourself. It's an endless litany of me, me, me...

It sounds like you are very young, able-bodied, relatively privileged, from a "first world" nation, and you've never been pregnant, borne children, breastfed, have had children in your care when out and about, experienced serious illness, been the carer of someone seriously infirm, and thankfully you have no history of ever being sexually molested, raped, beaten, stalked, trafficked, pimped, coercively controlled by a man... But just because that is your own personal situation doesn't mean it's everyone else's. Many girls and women on earth are not in your same shoes. Why is that so hard for you to understand? Why do you have such utter disregard for other people, girls and women especially? Why do you view those who need spaces that will provide more privacy, safety and dignity than you personally need at this time in your life with total contempt and disdain?

Also, why on earth are you talking about the prospect of banning men from the streets and certain neighborhoods? That's something no one has proposed. It has jack shit to do with the issues of whether men and older boys should be allowed in to women's locker and changing rooms so they can watch girls and women get undressed, plant spy cams, and/or wave their willies in girls' and women's faces.

It has nothing to do with the issue of whether HCFs should be able to have separate maternity wards where the only patients are women in labor, giving birth or who have recently given birth. Pray tell, how does it benefit women in labor or who have just given birth to have to share their rooms in hospital with random blokes, some of whom will have sick sexual fetishes about pregnancy, maternity and breastfeeding and some of whom will have histories of sex crimes against women and children?

How does an elderly disabled woman confined to bed in a nursing home for the last years of her life benefit from being forced to room with a man who will be there cheek to jowl looking on as she gets undressed, is bathed, has her cath changed and her bottom wiped? What if the man has autogynephilia or another male paraphilia that causes him to get sexually aroused at seeing women suffer pain and indignities and has a habit of jerking off at her? How exactly is the life and mental and physical welling of such a woman improved by what you want to impose on her?