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[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

Certainly if someone signs up to queer theory, trans or not, that is all about breaking down people's boundaries which is exactly the opposite of what victims of sexual crimes need.

I disagree with that. Everyday Feminism is a site that subscribes to queer theory. In 2015 they did an article titled The Problem With How We’ve Defined Consent. They wrote "While every no means no, not every yes means yes." And there was even an Ovarit thread talking about this very issue but I can't find it. If queer theorists were all about breaking boundaries, they would not have written this article. Everyday Feminism has multiple articles about consent, as well as other sites and outlets that subscribe to queer theorey.

Also, most trans people and their allies believe its OK to not want to date or have sex with anyone for any reason. Yes there are exceptions but for the most part most trans people will respect your boundaries if you don't want to date or sleep with them.

[–]Juniperius 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Also, most trans people and their allies believe its OK to not want to date or have sex with anyone for any reason. Yes there are exceptions but for the most part most trans people will respect your boundaries if you don't want to date or sleep with them.

Wrong. Did you try the experiment I suggested for you?

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I'll try it.

[–]Juniperius 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

For your safety, you should not use any identifiable information if you decide to try it. I want you to see what it's like out there, but I don't want you to actually get hurt.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I used a false name and random pics.

[–]Juniperius 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have to admit I'm kind of impressed that you're going for it. What wording are you using to say that you're looking for female people exclusively? I'm going to have a lot of questions about your experience! I hope you'll make a post.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I said I am looking for "cis women only". I checked back yesterday and so far no threats or anything like that.