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[–]circlingmyownvoid2 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Asking someone to analyze something isn’t equivalent to demanding a change.

If someone tells you they don’t like trains and you ask why it isn’t a demand to change, but a search for analysis.

If your answer is “It takes to long with all the stops so isn’t convenient for my lifestyle” that’s not something anyone is saying change. If the answer is “because poor people ride them and they are diseased” that’s a problematic belief worth addressing and even after changing that problematic belief you may still not like trains for non problematic reasons.

The genital preference thing is similar. If you say you are in to women but not trans women and someone asks why, that’s not demanding change. If the answer is “because I’m not attracted to penises or neovaginas” that’s not problematic. If the answer is “because trans women are men” that is a problematic belief that they may ask you to address, but also leaves open the possibility that you wouldn’t be attracted to trans women even if you addressed that bigoted belief (that trans women are men). They aren’t saying you should sleep with trans women, they are saying that if you exclude trans women you should examine why to see if there is a bigoted belief behind it. No one is saying change, they are saying analyze yourself to see if you have bigoted beliefs which that preference might be indicative of.

The goal isn’t to change the preference. That’s the difference.

[–]penelopekitty 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Trans women are men. That is a fact not a belief.

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Many people would disagree. Ultimately it’s a semantic disagreement.

[–]Penultimate_Penance 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's a reality vs make believe disagreement.