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[–]Fleurista💐 Transsexual 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It's incredibly worrisome and angering that that sort of thing is being introduced and pushed onto children early on in their lives. It's intentionally confusing, cruel and I fear that it's like this mass manufactured transsexualism that these kids are being set up for. This is not a good experience, no child should grow up that way and have to deal with the ramifications of that for the rest of their lives. It makes life unnecessarily difficult and painful, and makes it harder for children (or anyone) to love and accept themselves exactly for all of who and what they are. I am sorry I see it that way, but to me it is incredibly cruel or irresponsible at best.

I think kids with dysphoria obviously exist, but I think the idea of gender identity and being trans is something that people should maybe come to on their own instead of it being pushed and taught. I think the concept is accessible enough now that they could learn about it on their own and then look into talking to someone about it, if that makes sense. Like I’d think that’s the way to ensure that the people transitioning will actually be the ones who “need” it instead of people doing things because they were influenced at a vulnerable and impressionable age. Idk if that made any sense lol

That makes complete sense! I would agree, we could even redirect the energy of this contemporary societal obsession with transgenderism and gender into figuring out early interventions to help kids better understand sex and sex-based roles, and prevent transsexualism and/or dysphoria from happening in the first place. I've grown more and more of the opinion that there has to be a way to avoid transitioning, I see transitioning is more like the calmative or antidepressant medication that is just intended to help a patient relax enough to attend therapy.

My mom worked with an lgbt center and we were always around lgbt people so I think maybe our parents just thought it best to be upfront. She would always invite the “lgbt orphans” for holidays and sometimes just dinners and stuff. They explained being trans to us specifically because she was (and still is) close friends with a TW and we spent a lot of time together and my mother wanted us to understand. Other than that, both of my parents explained when we asked (in an appropriate but honest way) or when it was necessary (like me coming home from school terrified because my classmate randomly informed me that I’d start bleeding out of my vagina lol). They have always been very open about anything from sex and sexuality to drugs and anything else. I think it’s why I lack any type of filter lol. They always made sure we knew we could ask them anything and be honest about how we felt and what we thought. It’s why when I knew I was bi I had no fear of telling them or dating whoever I wanted. But I acknowledge that I was very lucky to have that and not everyone does. Nobody was inappropriate.

Wow. Your experience growing up in this kind of environment with the parents and adults and kids you had in your life is really amazing to me! That sounds incredibly cool. I mean, maybe it wasn't totally cool for you, but from the opposite side of things it seems like a really great experience to have as a kid, especially growing up as a bisexual kid. Did you ever experience any confusion really at all regarding your sexuality or sex? It doesn't sound like it, but I don't want to just assume... it's just hard to comprehend!

Your experience growing up lends so much more credence to the idea that it's a matter of confusion or misunderstanding regarding sex and gender that is a huge factor in dysphoria or cross-sex identification from developing. You were surrounded by LGBT people and culture and were told about just sex, and you never developed dysphoria or believed you weren't female (assuming again, please correct me if I'm wrong!).

Oh yeah older cousins will tell you EVERYTHING about everything lol

I'm the oldest grandchild on both sides of my family, I hope I haven't corrupted my little cousins lol 😂 Definitely not the best teacher

Im gonna pick a random day and use it as a flair just to see if you notice lol

Challenge gladly accepted 😁

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see transitioning is more like the calmative or antidepressant medication that is just intended to help a patient relax enough to attend therapy

That’s such an interesting view. I think I agree with you, it just never occurred to me to phrase it that way. But it makes sense.

Did you ever experience any confusion really at all regarding your sexuality or sex?

I didn’t paste all of this part but I’m super lucky to have had the childhood I had. I was surrounded by lgbt and creative people and it was wonderful!

I didn’t have any confusion, I just remember I developed crushes on two siblings and felt guilty for that lol. I had a crush on my friend, and then her brother. I think at first I thought I was a lesbian because the first attraction I felt was for a female, but I never felt weird about realizing I was bi because nobody around me really cared as long as they knew who I was spending my time with. I told my parents I was a lesbian, then that I was bi, both times they were just like, “okay. Thanks for telling us.”

My parents were weird about my brother going vegan, oddly enough lol.

I didn’t develop any type of dysphoria or anything, but I was shy about girls because I had absolutely zero gaydar. I felt much more insecure when it came to girls/women.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I see transitioning is more like the calmative or antidepressant medication that is just intended to help a patient relax enough to attend therapy.

Now this is an idea to really gnaw on fleur! Gonna be thinking bout this for days

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see transitioning is more like the calmative or antidepressant medication that is just intended to help a patient relax enough to attend therapy.

Now this is an idea to really gnaw on fleur! Gonna be thinking bout this for days