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[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think when people use the phrase it's generally referring to enacting behaviours that are usually associated with the opposite sex.

These behaviours can be a universal or culturally defined. This can include personality elements, expression, roles.

One element isn't likely to make a person gender non conforming. But a collection will.

I don't think you can choose your desires and suppression comes with psychological distress.

Aggressively adopting the norms of the opposite sex is nonconforming, but it is conforming to the opposite sex norms. It isn't escaping gender. I believe that quite strongly.

Very gender non conforming people can appear to be stereotypes of the opposite sex. But I think that's unfair on anyone who expresses it of either sex. Especially non conforming people as I don't think they actively choose it as a moral decision.

But then gender is a social thing. Humans are social animals and gender is part of that social interaction.

I hope you don't mind me replying I know I can infuriate you.