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[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (33 children)

Understandably, gender critical people often seem to believe that trans people share a lot of universal beliefs and attitudes about things, and many do, but that is the most common misconception that I see: assuming we all feel the same way about everything, or that we all have had the same experiences or upbringing. I think this is more common in people who haven't interacted with many different trans people.

There are other misconceptions about whether transwomen experience discrimination or misogyny in the same way that biological women do, like believing that does not happen. I can't really speak for misconceptions about transmen or nonbinary or androgynous people, other than all trans people often seem to get reduced to being fetishists, gay or both by GC people (among others). If there's truth in a belief, though, I'm not sure if it's a misconception.

[–]worried19 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (31 children)

It drives me crazy on Ovarit. Some people there really seem to think all trans women are the same. And that the vast majority of them are bad.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It's so annoying and frustrating, trans people do the same exact thing to GC radical feminists, too. In both cases it just comes across as immature and a bit petty, honestly. Ovarit seems to be changing a little bit in that it doesn't seem quite as full of that stuff as it was even at the beginning of the year--I see a lot more new usernames and a lot less old ones. Or it might just be my imagination!

[–]worried19 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

There was one particularly aggressive post today that pissed me off. We complain so much about the negative actions of certain trans people, why the hell are we doing the exact same thing in reverse? It's tribalism. People like to break everything down in terms of "us vs. them."

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

YES. The irony and hypocrisy is just too much, it would be really funny if it wasn't real and people weren't being nasty to each other. I mentioned the medical aspect in a comment to Circling, but the other reason I kind of got fed up with r/truscum and r/transmedical was because they did the same thing bashing and complaining about tucutes (AKA other trans people) all day every day, but bashing and complaining about GC radfems being so needlessly hateful of trans people. That 'us vs them' mentality is so sad. I get venting, though, and how fed up a lot of people are where they just don't have the tolerance, but it really seems to lead to some toxic conversations and viewpoints when lots of furious people get together.

[–]worried19 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, a lot of online discourse these days can be summed up as furious people venting.

I have been accused of tone policing in the past, and I get that it's problematic to tell women to "be nice," but I feel like GC should conduct themselves in a way that makes it harder for people to pin negative labels on us. Granted, it may not work. J.K. Rowling was so nice and moderate and even believes in "true trans" and yet she's still being sent rape and death threats. But that doesn't mean we should stop trying, at least in my opinion.

[–]BiologyIsReal 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Why the double standars? When has being "nice" produced any result? How is some women venting on the internet any worse than what TRA do daily? See my reply to moremoss for some examples.

[–]worried19 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's not worse, but why not be better than them? You can be firm without being cruel.

This thread for example is just plain nastiness for the sake of being nasty:

https://ovarit.com/o/GenderCritical/38307/new-acronym-dims

It does no good to our image and does not further the GC cause. There are times when it is important to be strident and even harsh. When protecting children from medical abuse, for example. This is not something like that. This does no good. And yeah, it was downvoted 6 times (once by me), but I'm disappointed to see it get so many upvotes along with further cruel comments.