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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

disclosing or raping are not the only two options, breaking it off without neither disclosing nor raping is better when you fear the one you want sex with.

I probably wouldn’t use the term rape, but this is a super important point. The trans person (usually) has the choice to not go any further if they are afraid of how the other person would react if they disclosed. I had so many occasions where I had to stop everything even though he wanted to and I wanted to because I wasn’t ready to tell him or I didn’t feel safe telling him. Guys may think you are a tease, but it’s better than putting yourself in danger or risking violating another persons boundaries.

[–]strictly 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I probably wouldn’t use the term rape

I consider the deception method of rape on the same moral level as other methods of rape, it’s one of the most violating things one can do to another person.

Guys may think you are a tease, but it’s better than putting yourself in danger or risking violating another persons boundaries.

I am a lesbian so I have no experience with how sexual situations with men tend to play out. I think if someone is very insistent and wants to fast-track sex then that person needs to take part of the responsibility for not giving sexual partners more of a chance disclose important information so I would consider it one of few mitigating circumstances.