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[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

yo u don’t have the right to have unexpressed preferences honored

That’s some really rapey rhetoric if you think about it.

Like, before sex is someone really supposed to list off every single thing they don’t want, and if they don’t, they lose the right to say no to unwanted anal, or being urinated on, or the right to change their minds about something they had previously agreed to?

Thats absolutely horrifying.

[–]HeimdeklediROAR 1 insightful - 6 fun1 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

Its also not what I said. Why would anyone lose the right to say no?

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

They lose their right to say no when they aren’t told ahead of time there may be circumstances they’d say no to…

[–]HeimdeklediROAR 3 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

No they don’t. If a sexual partner brings up trying an act that someone doesn’t want to try them they can just say no to trying it.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree one thousand percent.

If the issue that crosses someone’s boundaries is mentioned before sexual interaction begins, there’s no issue of consent.

However, if it’s not mentioned until after or not mentioned at all, a boundary has been crossed.