Im not saying to go around telling people that being trans is abnormal WTF

Im saying that trans people need to be able to acknowledge to themselves that being trans is a rarity that most people can’t relate to. And maybe they should keep that in mind when considering what they’re asking of others, and what they’re trying to tell us is true.

You’re saying “I’m a woman but Instead think of me as some uncomfortable other that won’t fit in anywhere ever”

Im saying “ ”

Im saying nothing.

you don’t have to say shit. You don’t have to tell people shit- unless it matters.

And people who it will matter to would either be professionals who shouldn’t be just randomly telling people they met a trans person or someone in your personal life who should be told (like a romantic partner). If someone mistakes a TW for a woman and the result is not that that someone gets raped by deception or the rights of a female aren’t undermined who gives a fuck? And if you don’t pass but someone is willing to use preferred pronouns and call you a woman it’s not like I’m saying they should be stopped.

All I said was that I think it’s better to advocate for spaces for trans people and that, because the ability to stealth is both not a guarantee and can be taken from someone, maybe it’s better to consider finding ways to make things better for out trans people, So people don’t have to stealth in their first place.

the trans community as a whole can advocate better for themselves by acknowledging some unavoidable truths and accepting that the rest of the word doesn’t think like them- so trying to convince or force us to think like you ain’t gonna work. It’s not working, masks. It’s really not going well, this current narrative is backfiring. And it’s backfiring because you cannot and will never be able to successfully convert the whole world or even your whole country to your way of thinking. You’re losing allies and upsetting people who didn’t give a fuck before as well as still having to deal with the people who actually do just hate trans people just because

That’s really all I’m saying- You can’t control how people see you or think of you, no matter how much it means to you. You can advocate for protections so that regardless of how someone thinks of you, you are safe and have equality (equality doesn’t mean inclusion, acceptance, or getting everything you want)

Im Also saying acknowledging the reality of the situation rather than pushing what you’d like it to be may actually help put out the fires on the bridges the trans community is currently burning

Im not saying blatantly out yourself, I’m saying it is possible to work towards getting to a point where if you are known as trans, people don’t care

Every community has had to do this- it’s a tough comparison because being trans is so unique- but women had to convince men we weren’t hysterical harlots who would ruin the world if we had equality, poc had to convince white people not to- well a lot of things…, LGB had to convince heteros that we weren’t mentally ill, depraved and that we deserved to not be illegal, and then that we deserved equal rights… obviously there’s still work to be done in all of those communities, but great strides have been made and my point is just that even if you’re right and everyone does currently just look at trans people as freaks or whatever you said, that’s kind of true all the time in these types is situations- we judge other groups and even discriminate against them until we learn to do better. You can see it all through out history. You don’t overcome that by perpetuating the idea that what you are should be kept secret because it’s shameful. All that does is tell the rest of us to agree with you.

But you can’t overcome it by forcing your beliefs on others, either.