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[–]Omina_SentenziosaSarcastic Ovalord 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

After what happened, it seems to me that any concession I would make in order to be "friendly or civil" with trans people would be used against me. That is definitely what happened with pronouns, names, labels and spaces, and I am frankly tired of working for their sake when everything I would get in return wouldn' t be in any way beneficial or pleasant for ME.

I am never going to "respect what someone wants to be called or referred to as" if it goes against reality or if doing it validates beliefs and feelings I do not share, especially if they bring way more problems than they solve. And given that doing that is what brought us here, there' s no way I am going to fall for that again just to be screwed over again in the future.

I don' t want to be friends again and I don' t want a "better relationship", I want for us to be left alone.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What you say is very fair and understandable. I can't really argue your sentiment. Do you think there is anything that would change your feelings?

[–]divingrightintowork 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Likely an apology and an understanding that such social norms are not universal and signaling a respect for the different social norms of many women?