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[–]worried19 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think it would a lot healthier for the community to acknowledge that being trans is nothing to celebrate. At its root, sex and genital dysphoria is a malady. It causes harm to individuals. People should not wish for others to suffer dysphoria nor should they resent or try to stop reasonable attempts to eliminate dysphoria. Why would they want others to suffer if they don't have to, especially children? You can celebrate people in the trans community overcoming obstacles and surviving, living their best lives in spite of dysphoria, but that's quite different from celebrating dysphoria itself. No one should wish for other people to become trans. It's condemning those people to a lifetime of potentially severe mental distress and medical complications.

I also believe that the trans community needs to reckon with the fact that literal sex changes are not possible. In their desperate attempt to deny the reality of sex, things in the trans community have gotten more and more extreme. This not only harms other groups, like women, children, and homosexuals, but harms trans people themselves. Chasing something that is impossible is not good for mental health. Biological sex is fixed. Trans people will always be members of their birth sex, and if they would just come to terms with that, I think it would do wonders for them overall. They can be transsexual, but they should not deny that there are biological differences between them and their target sex. I think if the movement embraced this reality, they would not be so aggressive and hell bent on trying to force "equality" that is not really equality on the population at large.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Totally agree with everything you said! You are very insightful.

I don't understand why many trans people seem to want other to be trans or be happy when other people are trans. I just can't relate to that at all. I have a good life (that I had to work really hard for), but being this way isn't something anyone should want for themselves or anyone else.

The literal sex change thing is weird too. I feel like that is newer because years ago people would use biological, or bio, or born (no cis until later) or other words to differentiate between us and people who were actually that sex. I felt like most people understood what they were. There were like books by Kate Bornstein or Riki Wilchins that tried to say that sex wasn't really real, but those ideas weren't mainstream like they are now.

[–]worried19 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah, it seems like past trans people acknowledged biological reality. I wasn't in tune with these issues prior to about 5 years ago, but from what I've seen, they weren't so angry. They were accepting, they had a sense of humor about their situation. Now it just seems like TRAs make people feel permanently victimized and offended and entitled, whereas earlier generations knew they were outliers and just wanted to be treated with decency and respect. I'm sure that's simplifying things a bit. I have read that there were problematic elements in the trans community going back to the 70s. But it surely wasn't as common as now.