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[–]MezozoicGaygay male 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If one grows up in an isolated chamber, and has no contact with anyone else, they'll never develop any kind of sexual feelings. Sexuality exists solely in a social context.

No, sexuality is not social, but biological. If heterosexual man was in an isolated chamber since birth for 30 years and then released into the world, that man will be attracted to women and will be aroused by women. If same will happen with homosexual man - he will be attracted to men and will be aroused by men. You can't learn sexuality and you can't chose who you are attracted to. The only way to "overcome" sexuality is strong mental disorders, a lot of sexual abuse and/or strong paraphilias.

So, how is sexuality not a choice?

At first you said that "sexual act is a choice" and then equated sexual act with sexuality. Those are different things. Your sexuality exist even without any sexual acts. If you are a man who is attracted to women, but had no sex you are not "asexual", you are still heterosexual man. If lesbian was "correctivelly raped" by men, and it is her only sexual experience - with men, she is not becoming heterosexual, she is still homosexual, she is still lesbian, even thought she only had sex with men. Sexual act is not sexuality.

I don't consider sexuality to be real, a scientific phenomenon, but something society has made up.

It is not stopping to exist because someone believes in it or not. Sexuality exist for all humans and animals.

Post-modernism is just a philosophy, not a reality. You can't change reality by renaming something or thinking about something in a different way.

Just because someone can be sexually attracted to both sexes doesn't mean they are. They can still choose to be exclusively interested in one sex.

If bisexual marries someone and spend whole life with them, they are still bisexual, even thought they only had sex with their partner whole life. However, they still can be attracted to both sexes - when heterosexual and homosexual people can't. Even if gay man or lesbian will want to be with opposite sex, will really like that person and will want to spend life together - they will not be able to get sexually attracted and aroused by that person anyways. They just can't to chose to like opposite sex, regardless of how they personally want - their body will not listen. And it is not possible at all to start liking opposite sex sexually for homosexual people. Same for heterosexual people but about their own sex. If it was possible, I'd most likely would be heterosexual already, same as gay men and lesbians in Iran, who are murdered because they just can't love opposite sex, even after tortures and even in fear of death. It is just not possible to change your sexuality.

You are failing to understand that other people have different experience and that if you are bisexual that does not mean everyone is bisexual.