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I don't think sexual orientation is a choice, and while the number of bisexual people who are comfortable acknowledging same-sex attraction may be higher in a non-homophobic society, I don't believe it would ever reach 100%. Or even 50%, for that matter.

All I know is that my sexuality seems hard-wired. I've had lots of time to think about it. When I was 11, other kids started calling me a lesbian. I figured that must be what I was. Even though I hadn't experienced any crushes or sexual attractions, I assumed the other kids were right and that I would end up being gay. This was not upsetting to me. Even at that age, I did not get what the big deal was about being gay.

But then I turned 12 and started puberty, and all of a sudden my urges and attractions developed, and they were not towards girls or women. I didn't even realize what I felt was sexual attraction at first. And then after a few weeks it hit me. I was confused, but rolled with it. I already knew I liked boys as friends. Having one for a boyfriend seemed like a natural next step. As I got older, I realized it wasn't going to be as simple for me as it was for non-GNC girls. But that didn't change my orientation. I could have faked being a lesbian, I suppose, but I wouldn't have enjoyed it.