Both: What do you think causes people to develop sexual paraphilias?

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[–]anxietyaccount8 9 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

You can look at sexuality in Roman history and see sexual practices we recognise today but interpreted in different ways.

The way that sexuality in ancient Rome was perceived is honestly not that different to how many men see it today in 2021. They still may think that giving pleasure to a woman is demeaning, and that being penetrated makes you "gayer" than the person doing the penetrating. I don't understand why people are so fascinated by sexuality in Ancient Rome/Greece. It's just sexist to me.

I'm generally looking at popular erotic culture. Yes I agree that is culturally dependent. Again don't blame me for what is popular erotic work with women.

See, I can only speak for my own self, but as a radfem and a straight woman, my own taste actually changed. All women are pretty much taught that men who are super dominant, rich, etc, are the most attractive. A lot of portrayals of these kinds of men are actually very unrealistic, for example books will show a man being sadistic and a literal rapist, but at the same time he will eventually love the woman protagonist. Sadistic men in real life don't tend to be so "perfect", obviously.

I guarantee you, the reason so many women like this sort of thing is simply because of societal influence.

Both the sexually dominant men aged 35-44 years and sexually submissive women aged 35-44 years perceived themselves as being more attractive.

This is just... isn't it SO obvious as to why that would be true?

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

See, I can only speak for my own self, but as a radfem and a straight woman, my own taste actually changed.

When you say you changed? What changed?

I guarantee you, the reason so many women like this sort of thing is simply because of societal influence.

That's the big question to me.

[–]anxietyaccount8 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

When you say you changed? What changed?

Mainly that I realized traits such as being compassionate were infinitely more important to making a good or attractive man, than what I was taught. People always said "a REAL man has to always take charge and be the perfect masculine example". But many men who are so hung up on their masculinity are misogynistic. So it changed my mind.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

That doesn't sound that radical though.

[–]anxietyaccount8 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Well in my perception it was radical because I held a more conservative viewpoint before.