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[–]worried19 12 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 3 fun -  (11 children)

I think there is some "trans" component in me. I can feel like there is some desire for "female sexual display." I know gc would find this offensive and disgusting but I'm trying to rationalise it and the wider world. In that sense I have that component but I don't think I'm female.

I think it's important not to extrapolate your experience to the female experience. You're male. You've never experienced female sexuality or, more importantly, female socialization and social conditioning. You were not trained to self-sexualize, self-objectify, and engage in "female sexual display" the way the vast majority of girls are. You're a man with a paraphilia. A woman who has sexualized and objectified herself because she's been taught that's the only way to be seen as attractive to her desired partners is in an entirely different boat.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 8 fun2 insightful - 7 fun3 insightful - 8 fun -  (10 children)

Sure, I'm not a woman but obviously I live with what women desire which is masculinity.

You accept you express a form of masculinity, does that include sexuality?

[–]worried19 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

I don't know what it means to have a masculine sexuality. I just consider my sexuality neutral. When I'm naked and involved in sex, the last thing I would be thinking about is society's gender roles.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 7 fun2 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 7 fun -  (8 children)

I don't know what it means to have a masculine sexuality.

But you do think men are prescribed sex roles by society? That their pleasure is put before a woman's and that the male is the dominant pursuer. That is part of the popular fantasy. Isn't that what gc would say and that sex roles are bad?

That the popular role of masculinity within erotic popular with straight women show a particular kind of masculine sexuality, no?

[–]worried19 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

We've had this discussion before. You view all of sexuality through this weird BDSM lens that is very foreign to me. That's not how I was raised to think about sex.

Not all men are selfish and interested in their own pleasure first, nor are they all dominant pursuers of women. All gendered social roles are bad, but sex doesn't need to have anything to with society's roles. Sex is a pure and natural occurrence. Just bodies, no costumes.

So I don't know what it means to have a masculine sexuality. I have a high sex drive. I experience spontaneous desire. I am very visual. I am also very monogamous and not interested in fetishes.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 7 fun2 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 7 fun -  (5 children)

But you see yourself as a minority among women.

Sex is influenced by society, within limits, and I'm skeptical of purity.

I definitely don't think of myself as the norm within men.

[–]worried19 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Whether I'm a minority in how I dress and cut my hair has nothing to do with sex.

Society can certainly twist a person's natural sexuality due to exposure to trauma and other things. But I don't think sexuality is naturally tied to society's gender crap. Just because a women willingly puts on makeup and a dress doesn't mean she wants to act like some porn star stereotype in bed.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

If it isn't tied to society then why would changing society change sexual behaviour?

Surely there is a relationship but it's debatable what that is.

Would you say my deviancy is caused by society?

[–]worried19 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Sexuality is not naturally tied to society's gender crap, but society can twist a person's natural sexuality into something different.

Would you say my deviancy is caused by society?

That I don't know. I don't think you were born with a paraphilia. I think it developed due to something in the environment. But I really don't know anything about your life or childhood, so I can't speculate on what would have caused it.

[–]MarkTwainiac 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Would you say my deviancy is caused by society?

It's so telling that this is the sort of thing theory keeps bringing up in a thread about

Is autogynephilia normal in natal women?

Everything is about him and his paraphilia. It's like he doesn't get the joke behind the famous lines, Enough about me. Now let's talk about you. What do you think of me?

[–]MarkTwainiac 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That the popular role of masculinity within erotic popular with straight women show a particular kind of masculine sexuality, no?

This is genderist gibberish.