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[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

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A starting point to me is common sexualities have gender norms. Yes?

If those are reversed it's considered fetishistic and perverse.

Sexualities or sexes?

Biological sexes have commonly enforced gender norms assigned to each.

Oriented sexualities describe innate patterns of attraction.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (5 children)

Sexualities or sexes?

Yeah I was meaning the sexualities common to the two sexes. I don't think men and women like the same things, generally.

Biological sexes have commonly enforced gender norms assigned to each.

Right but how far?

Oriented sexualities describe innate patterns of attraction.

So how much is innate?

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yeah I was meaning the sexualities common to the two sexes. I don't think men and women like the same things, generally.

I don't think we're defining "sexuality" the same here. Are you addressing sexual orientation (lesbian, gay, bi, het) or objects/practices that generate sexual arousal?

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

The latter, I don't think men and women are attracted to the same things. The things people find erotic separate from sexual orientations.

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Okay. That is a very large, very different conversation, maybe not aprops for OP's thread.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

But there is gender differences in that? Or at least as a spectrum?

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I suspect there are. But I think the term "spectrum" is grossly overused.