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[–]MarkTwainiac 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

But you do think a person can change gender expression midlife in a way that is unexpected to outsiders?

Don't you know any women who've recently given birth and/or have young children? Many chop their hair off and eschew beauty and grooming routines coz they are too exhausted and overwhelmed to be bothered.

Don't you know any older women who reached a certain point in life and adopted a stance of I don't give a shit any more?

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Don't you know any older women who reached a certain point in life and adopted a stance of I don't give a shit any more?

(We should have a rite of passage for this) 😼

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

Of course but they don't seem happy about it. I don't think exhaustion is something they are embracing.

Just as I don't think men who have to give up aspects of their masculinity out of exhaustion are excited about it.

[–]MarkTwainiac 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Mothers of young children who eschew sexist beauty and grooming standards certainly suffer exhaustion. But the legions of older women who take a stance of I don't give a shit any more are not necessarily doing so out of exhaustion. At all.

And we're happy about it too! It's one of the great secrets of women's lives after menopause that male-dominated misogynistic mainstream media and society have suppressed.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

But what's the claim here?

Because you're jumping between different reasons exhaustion, menopause, a rejection femininity due to misogyny.

They're very different things.