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[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 3 insightful - 8 fun3 insightful - 7 fun4 insightful - 8 fun -  (7 children)

I believe sexuality is based on gender presentation, not gender identity. Some trans men are gay, but there was a post on r/FTM to pre-transition gay men asking who they date, because they know gay men will not be attracted to them pre-transition. Likewise, I will not date a female-presenting trans women, but I would date a passing trans man, just like I would date a cis man but not a cis woman, because I'm straight.

[–]ZveroboyAlinaIs clownfish a clown or a fish? 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

You just described bisexuality with leaning towards one or another stereotypical presentation. It was one of main arguments of conservative homophobes, that lesbians are liking femininity and gay men liking masculinity. And obviously it is not true.

Majority of people are monosexual, not bisexual.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 3 insightful - 7 fun3 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 7 fun -  (5 children)

That's not bisexuality. I'm straight. I personally know a trans woman who I was attracted to pre transition, even when she came out as trans. When she starting transitioning, even though she didn't pass as a cis woman, she appeared to feminized for me to be attracted to her. I'm not attracted to women because I'm straight. I am attracted to passing trans men like Buck Angel.

[–]BiologyIsReal[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I'm straight and I'm not attracted to feminized males, either. Humans didn't evolve to be attracted to men or women who take exogenous hormones and/or undergone surgeries in order to resemble the opposite sex. These "treatments" are very new in terms of human history, after all. Really, many people, including trans identified people, aren't open to date trans people.

I am attracted to passing trans men like Buck Angel.

Do you think genital surgeries are necessary for trans people to "pass"? Because as far as I read Buck Angel didn't undergone one.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

I am attracted to pre op trans men if they have transitioned, and I am willing to do sexual things that don't involve their vagina. They would have to be post of for me to do something with their genitals.

[–]adungitit 7 insightful - 5 fun7 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 5 fun -  (2 children)

Do you realise you're being transphobic with these statements? A man's vagina is a "bonus hole" and his clit is a "penis". Why are you refusing to do anything with their trans male genitalia on the basis of not being attracted to women?

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 1 insightful - 7 fun1 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

Ok, then whatever terms trans men prefer for their genitals.

[–]adungitit 4 insightful - 7 fun4 insightful - 6 fun5 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Penis. You are refusing to do things with male bodies and male genitalia literally for no reason other than them being on a trans person. You are a transphobe. How do you justify this to yourself and your community?