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[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 5 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 5 fun -  (6 children)

Butch lesbians don't tend to suddenly appear in midlife.

I think they do happen.

I think they tire of not being themeselves.

So you are a Blanchardian? That is essentialist. Gender norms would be tied to sex.

But you also say you are a straight gnc woman?

[–]AlexisK 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

"Don't tend to suddenly happen" and "don't happen at all" are two different things.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (4 children)

Well they were the ones implying it doesn't happen by doubting her motivations.

[–]BiologyIsReal[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Given the circunstances, the most likely explanation is that Jane is denying her heterosexuality because not doing so would "invalidate" Stephanie.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Given the circunstances, the most likely explanation is that Jane is denying her heterosexuality because not doing so would "invalidate" Stephanie.

That's a very commonly reported reality -- Jane is pressured to "recraft" her public persona as a lesbian (which she isn't) for the comfort of Stephanie, who also now presents as a lesbian (and is not). It's a double deception.

[–]theory_of_thisan actual straight crossdresser 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

I wasn't meaning Steve had changed as well, I was theorising instead Jane had come out.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Coming out and transitioning are fundamentally different categories of action.

ETA "instead" is huge . . . completely changes the thought experiment.