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[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (7 children)

You found me even here :D

[–]Elvira95 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (6 children)

I hope to find you in person as soon as possible :D

[–]Tea_Or_Coffee[S] 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

Aww 🥺 Hope you and u/VioletRemi finally meet soon 🥰

[–]Elvira95 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yeah, it's shitty that we're both in very complicated condition in our lives and far, yet I have completely fall in love, even if it's very unlikely to have a real relationship. Sometimes you find the perfect person who makes you feel close to her, even if she's so far and from completely different culture and country. I still hold some hope though. Thanks.

[–]Tea_Or_Coffee[S] 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

I can feel how hard it is for you :( I haven't ever been in a relationship myself because socialization drains me (I can manage online interactions more than the ones in reality) and I'm never able to take good care of myself let alone a relationship. But I've learned a few things about it watching other relationships, so my advice to you and u/VioletRemi would be not to give up on your love for each other. View the distance between you as a learning journey, a test.

Instead of thinking that the long distance is pulling you two apart, believe that through this experience, you will be bound together even stronger.

You can use video chats to at the very least meet face to face too! I'm sure you will meet one day though. Fingers crossed wishes

P.S. my dms are always open if you want to vent about this to someone and need support!

[–]Elvira95 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Awww, you're cute. Interactions drain me too. you can use app to meet people. It's always the best way to meet someone anyway. beign introverted doesnt' mean you cannot find someone to stay with. Me and VioletRemi are both extreme introverted, that's why we like each others so much, we're very similar in lots of ways.

Anyway, thanks. And never stop believing you can find someone. Although Ive got that before being in relationship you need to fix problem in your life and I need lots of problems to fix. You can't stay with someone if you can't stay well with yourself. Relationships are wonderful but shouldn't be seen as a need not to be miserable, because it's hard to find the right one, and better alone than with the wrong person. I know, it's hard since emotional connection and sex are very important needs. But that's the truth. Good luck and thanks again

[–]Tea_Or_Coffee[S] 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Omg thank you! You're so cute too 🥺

And yep! I've learned from watching other relationships that being in a relationship is not the solution to all of one's problems. None of the issues miraculously disappear the minute someone meets their partner.

So it's definitely best to work on myself (e.g. boost my mental health). I don't want to drag someone into my mess and leave her miserable.

You and u/VioletRemi literally give me hope that my introverted heart can finally find someone one day though. May your love continue to stay strong!

[–]Elvira95 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Aww, sure you can find someone, even if sometimes seems impossible. Often what we call introversion is bad mental health (I suffer from it too) and self-esteem issues. Being introverted means we need alone time, but doesn't mean we got problem to socialize with others. So if you manage to improve your mental health you will get better chances, for sure. Thanks girl. Good luck to you too