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[–]grixitperson 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sex is not a spectrum, but for some people, sexuality is. And some people are a little bi.

[–]MarkTwainiac 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I'd agree that "some people are a little (or somewhat) bi." My own observation is that for many people the bi part tends to be more emergent and louder at certain times of life, and goes dormant and gets turned down to low or no volume at others. And that what causes bi-ness to get shut off or downplayed for a part of life very often are such factors as desiring to couple up & settle down then actually doing so, having & raising children, forming and wanting to remain in a committed LTR, legalizing sexual relationships through marriage, DPs and procreating or adopting together as well as formal step-parenting arrangements, making & buying a home with someone else, pooling finances etc - as well as politics. Many "little bit" or somewhat bi people end up in LTR het relationships in part coz they are aware that in a heteronormative society where homophobia is rife, doing these things with a same-sex partner can be more stressful than doing them with someone of the opposite sex. But before and after the stage in life when having & raising kids is a main focus, lots of people's bi-ness comes much more to the fore.

Similarly, some men who are a little bit or somewhat bi end up living most of their lives as out exclusively gay men coz amongst those men who have sex with men for whom men loving men is as much a political act/statement/identity as a sexual one, MLM who have any sexual interest or dalliances with women tend to be looked down on - or worse.

At the same time, I've had personal experience with men who've spent the bulk of their lives as out and proud & policitized gay men yet who also have very much shown bi-ness behind the scenes in their formative & early adult years as well as in their later years.

Moreover, in the 70s and 80s, it wasn't uncommon for two men who were in a same-sex relationship with one another to fall romantically in love with a woman, and for the three of them to dream of - and even try to - make a home and even have/raise a child together. Back in "my day," the type of "oddball" love triangle of two men & a woman depicted in the Michael Cunningham novel and movie A Home at The End of The World wasn't all that odd amongst certain circles. I personally was deeply involved with two guys who were in a couple together to the point where we often would talk about me marrying one of them (but we never could decide which one, LOL).