QT: What is woman gender?

peakingatthemoment · 2021-04-11T21:30:55+00:00

Obligatory not QT, but trans. I feel like trans is multiple things that all get lumped together so I’m sure people might have different answers. If you have or had dysphoria, that is a mental illness so I’m not sure that we’d have perfectly logical answers. Maybe there are QT people who don’t or didn’t have dysphoria or don’t think it’s mental illness, but I’m not sure if any of the are here

I guess I’ll give two answers, one for the present and one for the past.

So current me sees myself as a woman because that’s how I am the world. It’s how people see me, how my body looks, and how people interact with me. I feel like you’d have to really make an effort to maintain some other identity if that is the case. I don’t really think about gender roles as being a reason for me being a woman because even if tried I to behave differently than I am naturally, it probably wouldn’t change how people see me. It’s probably similar to other non-trans people.
As a child, I had super strong belief that I was actually a girl or was one inside. I can’t really know why exactly. It could either be something I was born with or something that developed from being an feminine gay boy in an environment where that wasn’t an acceptable thing to be (maybe more likely). It wasn’t something anyone could get me to let go of (and various therapists and family tried for year, my family eventually support it when I was a teenager). Looking back, I feel like it had to do with feminine gender roles fitting me better, feeling uncomfortable with masculine parts of my body, feeling uncomfortable dressing like a boy, and fitting in better and feel more comfortable socially as a girl. I felt really strongly about all those things and, in my mind, it meant to me I was actually a girl. I feel like it’s mental illness though because I wasn’t a girl, I was a boy, but I couldn’t be convinced otherwise and persisted in that belief until after I was an adult.

poeslawisthriving · 2021-04-12T12:21:18+00:00

Not QT, but trans.

What does woman gender feel like?

Trick question imho, there isn't any, not on it's own anyways. If you're asking what if feels like to be of the male sex whilst identifying with the gender of 'woman' I can answer that from my own experience. If you're asking what if feels like to be of the female sex and being perceived and viewed as being of the gender of 'woman' I wouldn't know.

How do you know if you have a woman gender?

Either because A: You are perceived as such due to physical characteristics, or B: you identify with it.

I define identify as being wanting to be perceived as this gender (with varying degrees of success depending on many factors), which itself is the cultural and physical perception of the female sex.

Other people may argue different and can't and won't speak for them.

Fleurista · 2021-04-10T22:50:50+00:00

I'm not sure. I've been asked this before, how do I know I'm a woman if my sex is male? In my experience, it's the image and idea of myself I've always had, the characteristics about myself that people and society has told me are feminine or female, the feminine appearance I had before that led to people mistaking me for a girl, being told I was supposed to be born a girl, being brought up as a surrogate wife. All of that together convinced me that I am a woman and I must see the world the way a woman does. I know that's not true now as an adult, but that's the only way I've seen myself and seen the world, so if gender or gender identity were truly real, then I experience them as a woman. https://youtu.be/CL-f5d2i5tA This is more detail, I just included this as an elaboration

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