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Howdy crowdy what’s going on?

Suggested topics: Flaming and whether or not it’s acceptable here. What do you do for a living? If you got a billion dollars what would you do to make yourself happy? What’s the last thing you made? Cooking, crafting, some kids? How frequently would you say the word ‘fuck’ in a week? I’m at like 200.

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[–]loveSloaneDebate King 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

“Flaming and whether or not it’s acceptable here.”

I’m obviously okay with roasting, even okay with things getting heated (puns intended), but I think a line should be drawn and not crossed. Honestly idgaf about what was said to and about me on the other post, what I care about is the fact that it seems qt has more leeway than gc, as far as some other rules go.

“What do you do for a living?”

Musician, so is my husband. We’ve both been doing some teaching since quarantine, and I was so ready to get back to performing but that’s gonna have to be put on hold for a bit. you’ll see why down the comment :)

“If you got a billion dollars what would you do to make yourself happy?”

Donate most of it, put some up for savings and college funds and what not. Then take my family and friends (assuming it’s safe after all the covid stuff) on a trip

“What’s the last thing you made? Cooking, crafting, some kids?”

Made a pizza with my son a few days ago, it was gross lol but fun to make and just may be baking baby no.2 as we speak (not may be but seems weird to share on the sub lol)

“How frequently would you say the word ‘fuck’ in a week?”

It’s my favorite word, but I’m trying not to say it so often because my son is at the “repeat everything he hears” stage

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The repeating everything stage is rough. I don’t have kids but I’ve been active in all the no kings lives and cared for them and when I had to stop swearing to prevent neice1 copying I was like..offended by myself. Having to monitor it 24/7 everyday sounds practically impossible.

Very cool, even if you gotta put off performing, very cool.

A billion dollars? First thing I’d buy the empty apartment block in town and donate it fully renovated to the refuge that helped me out as a teen and salaries to keep it fully staffed. One men’s building, one women’s, one families.

The rest? probably my teeth fixed and then pay for dental care there to be free for low income/no income people and families until the money ran out. Very specific but damn if it wouldn’t help out a lot of people in the area.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think I’d donate at least 100k to the rape shelter that got their gofundme taken down, as well as the other things I listed. Love the idea of renovating the refuge and making sure there’s space for different types of needs, that would be a wonderful thing to do.

The repeating everything stage has been brutal lol, lead to some funny moments but also just makes us both realize how bad our language is 😅

And I’ll probably still do some shows, just not as many as I’m used to and would like to do. I got really anxious about loud noises with my first pregnancy, like just worried that the noise would mess up my son’s hearing or something, and I was tired 24/7 lol

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hopefully the anxiety doesn’t happen this time! Sounds like the tiredness is unavoidable though.

[–]censorshipment 4 insightful - 8 fun4 insightful - 7 fun5 insightful - 8 fun -  (4 children)

Flaming?? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flaming_(Internet)

Flaming or roasting is the online act of posting insults, often laced with profanity or other offensive language on social networking sites. This term should not be confused with the term trolling, which is the act of someone going online, or in person, and causing discord. Flaming emerged from the anonymity that Internet forums provide cover for users to act more aggressively.

Ahh in black online communities, such as Lipstick Alley, this is how black women in particular tend to talk (even in real life). If it's unacceptable, that would be racist tone-policing. We shouldn't have to code-switch in predominantly white spaces.

The BlackGirlDiaries subreddit is pretty unfiltered/uncensored. They say things that may be considered flaming by white people.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BlackGirlDiaries

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      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Which didn’t happen.

      It’s a question about whether or not the sub will enforce its own rule

      No flaming. This includes telling others to "fuck off", "fuck you", etc. Threads which deteriorate to the point of flaming will be locked

      nobody asked black women to do anything. It’s just a topic for discussion.

      [–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[M] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I’m removing both of these comments. We can discuss rule enforcement, but I’m making a dinner and won’t have time to engage with it tonight. Please be civil...

      [–]MarkTwainiac 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (11 children)

      Flaming and whether or not it’s acceptable here

      When I first read that line, OP, I thought you meant "flaming" in the way it was used in North American slang prior to computer message boards and the internet. As Oxford puts it, flaming once was a term defined as follows:

      North American informal, mainly derogatory (of a gay man) having a manner or appearance regarded as stereotypically homosexual.

      I've been using computer message boards since the new meaning of "flaming" emerged. But still, I harkened back to the anti-gay slur when you wondered "whether or not it's acceptable here." Clearly, I am a dinosaur who should show herself out, LOL.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

      Omg that never even crossed my mind!

      Nah you’ve honestly consistently given the best input in this sub imo. I appreciate a different generations view on what we discuss here.

      [–]MarkTwainiac 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

      Yeah, "flaming" used to be a synonym for such andro-homophobic slurs as "swishy," "bent," "limp wristed" and "light in the loafers."

      Glad to hear my views are appreciated by at least one poster here. The common view in Western cultures and especially online is that people over a certain age don't know jack shit. But my experience is that a lot of older people know a whole lot. From study, from observation, from listening to others and from their/our own "lived experience."

      It galls me to be told by a male person his 20s that he knows more about being a woman than an actual female person like me who has lived in a female body since conception, been subjected to misogynistic sex discrimination for decades, carried & birthed children, gone through menopause and is now dealing with the realities of what it means to be an elderly woman in a misogynistic, ageist culture & system.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

      Growing up with my grandparents taught me age doesn’t equal ignorance or any lack of intelligence. Hell I’d be thrilled to end up how you come across in the sub. Definitely seen a lot of dismissing older women in particular as being fussy and silly Having young boys tell you what womanhood is after experiencing decades of it is vile! I’m still in my twenties and hate it, for women who lived through even more misogynistic times it could only feel more demoralising I’m sure.

      [–]MarkTwainiac 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

      For the record, this is the most misogynistic time (in the US) I've ever lived through. I often feel what's happening to girls & women in the US today is very much like what happened to girls & women in Iran in 1979.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      That’s a really scary thought. To have gotten more misogynistic after everything done by those first waves of feminists.

      I have no idea what happened in Iran ever but I’m gonna look into it cause this has peaked curiosity. I’m still brand new and ignorant to women’s history outside of Australia.

      This is exactly why I love having women from different age brackets here. Y’all know so much more through experience and time.

      [–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

      For the record, this is the most misogynistic time (in the US) I've ever lived through.

      😥 Oh wow, that’s so depressing. I feel like this is the worst it’s been in my lifetime, but I never thought it was worse than those earlier times. I always thought pre-women’s lib would be worse.

      [–]MarkTwainiac 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

      Depends when you think "women's lib" started.

      The Second Sex was first published in French in 1949, in English in the USA and other countries in 1953. Both dates are before I was born.

      Betty Friedan's "The Feminine Mystique" about women in the USA was published in February 1963, when I was 8. But the ideas she summed up & put into print were already out there circulating amongst women in the US & were very much a part of the convos women had been having amongst themselves for years.

      Much of Friedan's research consisted of interviewing women now often referred to as "stereotypical 1950s housewives" - a much maligned group who IMO are very misunderstood & inaccurately portrayed. Given the long lead times of book publishing back then, Friedan most likely handed in the manuscript in late 1961. Assuming it took her a year to write, a lot of her research probably was done in the 50s. But the point is, she didn't invent the desire for "women's lib" - she expressed and publicized the sentiments she had found were widespread amongst the women she knew and interviewed.

      Also, I make a distinction between sexism and sex discrimination and misogyny. Misogyny of course is what originally led to girls & women being treated like second-class citizens and to us being denied all sorts of rights & opportunities granted to males. But not everyone in an era of widespread sexism was misogynistic. In fact, it was precisely because a lot of the mostly male people in power in Western countries were not hardcore total misogynists at heart that they started listening to women and as a result began to vote in laws prohibiting sex discrimination such as the USA's Equal Pay Act of 1963, to open up opportunities for girls & women in education & the workplace, and to overturn laws and policies that were unfair to girls & women.

      The world I grew up in was full of barriers for girls & women, but those barriers were being challenged & dismantled - & despite all the sexism, sex discrimination, sex abuse, sexual harassment, sex crimes and so on that girls & women faced, the future for girls & women seemed brighter than ever before in history. Progress was slow and spotty, but generally things were moving in the right direction. Whereas today, many of the basic rights, provisions & protections women fought hard for are under threat - & the future for girls & women seems bleak.

      For most of my life, the beliefs of second-wave feminism were seen as respectable and reasonable. But today, women with second-wave feminist beliefs are considered the scum of the earth and likened to Nazis and racists.

      When I grew up, the airwaves were full of boys & men singing sappy love songs about girls & women. Today, girls & women are constantly told that we have no right to use those terms solely for our own sex anymore; that it's hateful for us to acknowledge or discuss biology; that simply being female amounts to a hate crime & act of oppression against males who wish they were the opposite sex; that girls & women have no right to dignity, privacy, peace of mind, fair play in sports, physical safety from males, or to have any place where we can rest assured that males won't be able to barge in, look & leer at us, police our speech & use the size & strength of their male bodies & their penises to intimidate us or worse. Moreover, we're told that wanting the right to any of these things means we are evil bigots & "transphobes."

      Under the cover of "trans rights," males and many females across the Western world on a daily basis demonize women, tell us to STFU and threaten us with death, rape & the most gruesome physical and sexual assaults whose details they spell out with glee, and produce publish endless books, articles, academic papers & media that say the most disgusting, demeaning things about female people whilst simultaneously denying that biological sex really exists or matters. And politicians, the mainstream media, most powerful institutions and everyone who consider themselves "progressive" side with the people doing this.

      I was one of the first women to attend a previously all-male Ivy League university - and in that process dealt with a lot of misogyny. But the misogyny that's afoot today & which so many young men - and unfortunately many women too - feel totally comfortable expressing freely and openly for all the world to see & hear, strikes me as far worse. Today, people who claim the mantle of "trans rights" are actually praised and celebrated for being blatantly misogynistic & regressively sexist. And today people who commit or advocate child abuse and the sterilization of confused minors with mental health issues under the guise of "trans rights" are hailed as humanitarians. What's more, it's the educated classes that are doing the praising, celebrating and hailing. Whereas in the 1970s, being misogynistic, sexist and in favor of child abuse were widely seen as backwards & unenlightened, things to be looked down and remedied. Certainly not championed the way they are today.

      [–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

      Thanks for sharing your perspective! Your comments are always so detailed and well thought out.

      I usually think of women’s lib as like the civil rights act with title VII and title IX and other legislation in the 60s, and then sort of ending after the defeat of ERA. You are totally right that it was building for longer though. You could go back further too with like the suffragettes, Margaret Sanger, and Seneca Falls.

      The 80s also seemed like it was better too. I was born in the 80s, but wasn’t old enough to remember them.

      Totally agree. I feel “trans rights” provides the excuse so many people (mostly males) were waiting for to express their misogyny. They can say any vile thing to women and be cheered on as long as she is a “terf” or transphobic. Deep down, so many men take real pleasure in degrading and demeaning women. I’m always so surprised more people don’t see it in what is happening now.

      That’s really neat that you were one of the first women to attend your college. Thank you for doing that! I’m sure it wasn’t easy.

      [–]MarkTwainiac 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

      Peaking, first off I want to say that I am sorry that what is going on in the world today has put people like me at loggerheads with people like you. Women like me used to be the staunchest allies of homosexual men who were labelled "effeminate." During the AIDS crisis, it was women of feminist sensibilities who took the lead in providing care and compassion to male transvestites and transsexuals with HIV at a time when many other gay men wanted nothing to do with their "swishy" brethren. There's a reason that the 1990 film Paris Is Burning was directed/made by a woman.

      But with the rise of misogynistic "trans" politics, women like me have had to stand back & draw our boundaries, siding with the 51% of the human population who are of the female sex rather than with persons of the male sex who buck sex stereotypes.

      One of the differences between what's going on today with women's spaces and the male college/uni I went to is that women like me did not show up en masse on previously all-male campuses one day and say "we belong here now and if you disagree we'll rape and kill you." What happened was that the all-male boards of trustees of these institutions absorbed what feminists were saying, deliberated about whether to admit girls/women, decided yes they should, and then put out press releases asking female students to apply for admission.

      Another point that I feel does not get enough emphasis - and which gets me into hot water with other feminists for bringing it up - is that the 19th amendment to the US constitution that extended voting rights to women was passed by an entirely male federal legislature, and ratified by state legislatures that were almost entirely male as well.

      Similarly, all the landmark civil rights laws that have extended other rights and provisions to female people have been passed by predominantly male lawmakers. The SCOTUS jurists who decided Roe v Wade in the US were all male.

      [–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I wish we weren’t on opposite ends of this. I always felt like we were, or should be, allies to you too, and I worked for feminist causes when it could (still do). This all used to feel so much simpler. I felt like we had the same interests and still do, but “trans rights” trying to take women’s rights away means we can’t be a part of the same movement that way anymore. 😢 I hope it isn’t forever. Maybe this moment will pass.

      [–]MezozoicGaygay male 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Huh, I've never heard of such use of word "flaming". Seems it was locally North American.

      [–]BiologyIsReal 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      About the rules, I feel like there is a double standard about what is expected from us. GC can't misgender other users, but for instance QT are free to call us "cis" despite they know we don't identify as such.

      A billion dollars is much money. I don't know what I'd do with it. I guess I'd donate most of it and use the rest for saving, buy a house, and travel abroad once the pandemic ends.

      I'm a little mouthful, but not much. Though, I don't use "fuck" in my daily life because it's not my language. If you want to have a laught, although I've heard the word "fuck" from movies for a long time I didn't know about its sexual connotations and I though it was just a generic expression of anger. I guess some traslations of said word in Spanish should have give me a clue, but I was very naive as a kid/teen. I'm not that naive anymore, though ("thanks", internet!).

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Yeah being repeatedly called cis and having males tell me I’m not a woman cause I don’t engage in the obsession with identity is an actual problem. That and seeing gnc posters repeatedly called bigots or compared to racists with no justification.

      Hahaha can totally see how that would be an easy mistake to make regarding the many meanings of the f-bomb. English is such an absurd language! It’s closer to a junk drawer of words than anything else.

      [–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

      awwww I love this! 😊 Asking the important questions here, I see! I had to look up flaming--is that insults and such? I like light banter, but not a fan of being mean, I was the kid who cried at everything lol. I'm a conceptual abstract artist and performance artist, plus I do marketing and operations work for a local gallery. The last thing I made was drawing of a penis as part of a series I'm working on, nothing extraordinary. Does typing the word "fuck" count? I live by myself and can go days without uttering a verbal word, but if I'm typing, hoooo doggies, I'm probably at a solid...12. What about you, Houseplant? Wie geht's? I'm curious to learn about you! 🙂

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

      Omg I started learning German a week ago!

      I’m a snark monster but I don’t like flat out insulting people. Made an effort to replace insults in my vocab with less nasty terms like goblin or porkchop, mostly because it’s funny imo.

      I work in an antique store doing paperwork and visual merchandising (with an essential tremor lmao)so I probably drop about 30 ‘ah fuck!’ Per day. Every fumble seems to get one but sometimes you’re fumbling a $200 cup. Dunno how I’d ever cope facing customers.

      I love art, all of it! Hope I see something from your work one day! (I’d ask but I don’t like the risk you’d have putting your work to your online name here) What’s it like working at a gallery?

      Haha that’s a great answer for last thing made. Mines a thread painting of the evil eye and wildflowers.

      [–]loveSloaneDebate King 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Every time you call someone “pork chop” I laugh out loud. I never expect it so it gets me laughing every time

      [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

      I took two years of German in high school, but my passion is French, which is ongoing :) How are you enjoying it? It's certainly fun to be a bit light and playful, I like to joke with my closest friends all the time (wanna steal goblin and porkchop btw). Totally get the "ah fuck!" response, I would be the same exact way in your shoes. "ferfuck'ssake" is just delightful when you stub your toe from wandering around in the dark at night trying to get a glass of water. I dare say it's emboldening! I love talking about art and viewing it with others, it's a way to indirectly get to know people, I think! I would totally share something if it wouldn't give me away. Maybe I'll share "the almighty penis" (title pending) one day. I love working around art and with it and meeting artists, it's fun if unstructured. Never boring!

      Had to look up thread painting and my gosh, WOW. That's impressive you work in that medium, it seems like it would really take dedication and precision. I can only imagine what your work looks like, though I feel the same about maintaining privacy. Such a shame. I'm sure it's beautiful, though 🙂 How do you like where you are in life? Someone asked me to imagine my 100th birthday and what that would look like, and honestly I'm not sure still. I'm very old, in a wheelchair, tired but sarcastic as ever. I must have some sort of family. What about you, what do you see?

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

      Germans been pretty fun to learn! Haven’t done any second language since highschool Indonesian. We have a rule for the nieces and nephews at Aunty houseplants house about toes and swearing! You get one swear if you smack a toe or elbow on something lol.

      Thread painting is awful, fiddly, frustrating and ugh I love it so much. Currently doing a picture of a little girl pulling a head out of a garden bed. Gross and floral is really the whole entire wheelhouse.

      I’m happy. I’m not particularly educated or successful but I’m happy and it’s enough. Coming from a place where I was agoraphobic, anorexic, and had no coping tools for late diagnosed ASD (bleh sob stories) im so satisfied with the small things. How about you? Hopefully you’re in a good spot in life as well.

      100? I just imagine being a ghost and my sisters kids kids casually telling their friends when spooky stuff happens “yeah house is haunted. Just call the ghost a dickhead and it stops” don’t really believe in ghosts but still wanna be one lmao.

      [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      "Gross and floral" ahhh this aesthetic is everything! I love it. Art-making is how I release my tensions and deepest feelings I can't vocalize or put to words, it sounds like that's maybe the case for you too.... suffering for art is requisite, of course.

      I'm glad to hear you're happy! Even if I don't know you beyond this sub, I'd hope for the best and you seem like a lovely person. And coming from a place of lots of struggles all piled up, I truly feel for you and know how much that bit of peace can mean. It sounds like you've had a really hard life, just from that bit you've shared of yourself, and I'm just so sorry you had to struggle with all of that. It's beyond rotten, really. I revel and take pleasure in the small acts of life, too. Life isn't easy, and I'm by no means religious, but I used to think the saying that "life is suffering" was bleak and cruel, but at this very moment I can see a sort of beauty in that statement. Not meaning to be a downer or anything, but looking at life that way helps me 😊

      bahahah being a pesky ghost would be sooo fun. Honestly. I like that you went with death lmao! Just goofing off and messing around, it's a noble ghostly venture!

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I dig the way you look at things. It’s easy to get caught up in the huge terrible things out there or that happen to us, and it might be silly but the little pleasures are what life’s all about. I see a horse it’s a good day.

      Idk about a lovely person but I try haha. You’re seem pretty cool yourself. Definitely an interesting person!

      Honestly as miserable as things have been I’m so lucky. I got treatment and had support and have never been a shocking or unusual case. Never been so grateful for mediocrity haha. Being able to come out the other side intact is basically winning a lottery.

      It’s definitely influenced the things I make though! A definite focus on motifs involving bodies, decay, reclamation of nature, and detachment from the self. Love surrealist landscapes and cronenberg style distortion of a human form. Classical ballet in particular really fucks with me. Graceful and gory and so many opposites meeting up in a human body.

      Been dreaming up a quilted Frankenstein coat made from sashiko shapes but it’s gonna take another six months just to collect the scraps in the colourway planned. Gonna be all sorts of shades of green, brown and purple like the leaf layer under a tree.

      I went for dead cause tbh being 100 sounds like a nightmare. I wanna go when my hands or mind get weak.

      It’s pretty nice to imagine a bunch of grandkids and great grandkids though. Some parts of getting old seem like a blast.

      [–]Porcelain_QuetzalTabby without Ears 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

      I have no issue with edgy jokes. I make them all the time. Just don't make it personally and everything is cool imo.

      I currently work as coach in a contact center leading a team of 11. Before that i worked as a chimnesweep for 4 years and before that in psychiatry for 2 years.

      If I had a billion dollars I'd probably quit my current job and pick up music again. With the other 999 millions I'd fund unions in Bangladesh and other countries currently overrun by capitalism.

      Wrote a song last week. Not much of a crafting person rn.

      I swear a lot. I try to cut back now that I'm in a leading position. But that just leads to me making more sarcastic jokes. So I'm at around 150 today.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

      Contact centres are like, my nightmare. Outbound ones anyway. All day long people talking at you and pressure! I’m always impressed by people who can hack it in environments like that. Idk how you’d keep your cool.

      Sounds like you’ve had a pretty damn interesting career. I assume you’d meet some interesting people between psych and chimneys!

      I’m pig-ignorant about Bangladesh but it seems like a very cool idea to use the money like that. A billion is a lotta homes and hot meals and medical treatments.

      Songwriting huh? Awesome! There’s so many creative people here

      [–]Porcelain_QuetzalTabby without Ears 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

      I'm in an inbound only team so it's not that bad for the agents. Still wouldn't recommend the job XD

      Dunno. I have like a plan, I'm trying to go to uni and become a teacher in a vocational school. But It didn't work out so worked in psychiatry. Tried again, then started the apprenticeship as chimnesweep. Once I became a journeywoman I tried to get into uni again but failed. Had to get a new job and knowing that surgery would be coming up decided to switch jobs to something big and corporate, where nobody would miss me if I vanished for 6 weeks. Now I've got my team. Once I've got my certificate as a team coach I'll try getting into uni again. I don't expect to get in by this point but am curious where I'll end up then. XD

      Yes I was surprised how many we were 😅

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      A plan is good. Trying is good. Imo being satisfied with life is worth more than a degree at the end of it all.

      I moved around a lot and went from milking cows to call center to antique store with an online shop in between. Kinda miss the cows tbh. Sweet silly creatures.

      Hope wherever you do end up in life it’s somewhere you like.

      [–]Porcelain_QuetzalTabby without Ears 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

      Honestly that sound really awesome and interesting. I love antiques and cows [they're so wholesome in their own way.].

      I hope the same for you :D

      [–]a_green_squidtransmed i guess? 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

      Flaming is probably about as acceptable as victim blaming, I guess.

      I regret my decisions for a living. Err, I mean I haven't quit my job yet. Looking forward to my fourth 12 hour shift in a row this week tonight, because we don't have a replacement for third shift and the two of us still here are covering it. Not so bad in my last 2-3 hours since I can goof around on my phone, still don't want to be there.

      Donate it. Seriously. There's nothing to do with 1 billion dollars and holding on to it is an objectively evil act. Having the money to actually impact change in some meaningful way would make me happy I think, so we can just call that it. Maybe I'll keep the last 100k (which is .0001% btw as a reminder for how goddamn big a billion is) and quit my stupid job and travel somewhere.

      Last thing I made was the bed. Second last thing was a stupid joke about 'making' a bed.

      Verbally, if you can believe it, not very often. I say helvítis a lot, which is sometimes translated as fuck in icelandic (it's kinda more like god damnit but well), but it's mostly under my breath.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      There's nothing to do with 1 billion dollars and holding on to it is an objectively evil act. Having the money to actually impact change in some meaningful way would make me happy I think, so we can just call that it. Maybe I'll keep the last 100k (which is .0001% btw as a reminder for how goddamn big a billion is)

      Yessssssss it’s such a useful amount for large groups of people and so much it’s practically useless for one person.

      [–]Greensquidsphone 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      Yeah. If you can donate 99.9% of your wealth and still be a millionaire, and you don't, you are a bad person. Unless you're putting that money to work to like, set up something self-sustaining, there isnt any justification to use a billion dollars on anything else.

      [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      Donate it. Seriously. There's nothing to do with 1 billion dollars and holding on to it is an objectively evil act. Having the money to actually impact change in some meaningful way would make me happy I think, so we can just call that it. Maybe I'll keep the last 100k (which is .0001% btw as a reminder for how goddamn big a billion is) and quit my stupid job and travel somewhere.

      This is the real answer. You could materially change the world for the better.

      [–]a_green_squidtransmed i guess? 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I think it would be the biggest challenge to see how far you could make a billion dollars go. I think buying the debts of people in poverty and then forgiving them would be the most efficient use of it. I know there's at least one charity that does that for medical debt, and I can't find anything as to them being disreputable.

      [–]Mr_Dork 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

      I'm just poking around and saying hi. It's nice to see so many familiar names.

      I hope y'all are doing well.

      Flaming: im not here enough to discuss

      Living: im a guy who does stuff in a place

      Billion: oh gosh. Lots of donating. No one I like would ever have to work again. Buy reddit and ban AHS for laughs

      Made: im clinically untalented but i did make my wife an eggwhite omelet the other day.

      Fuck: I say it a loooooot

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Omg banning AHS is hilarious!

      Haven’t seen your name around in ages. Hope you’re alright. Also it sounds like we’re all pretty foul mouthed haha

      [–]worried19 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Buy reddit and ban AHS for laughs

      Ha, oh that would be wonderful. Buy Reddit, ban all the misogynists and creeps, and restore our wrongly banned subs.

      [–]MarkTwainiac 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

      To me, a more interesting - and revealing - question is what we'd all do if we had a million dollars. Billion is too unrealistic & too big an amount for most of us to grasp.

      One of the last things I made was a remake of the lyrics to the classic love song from 1960, Will You Love Me Tomorrow to show that the hegemony of heteronormative romance long peddled by the popular music industry is, at long last, kaput. The new version is a paean to MLM called Will You Bruv Me Tomorrow.

      I am currently remaking the Bee Gees' song To Love Somebody along the same lines as To Bruv Somebody.

      As for how we make our livings: I was forced into retirement due to disability, & now live off investments I made decades ago. But during my work life, I held many jobs: lifeguard, child minder, tutor, photographic (fashion & hairdo) model, chambermaid, cashier, waitress, construction worker, tour guide, bartender, artists' model (for painters, drawers & sculptors), reporter, editor, investigative journalist, author, manuscript doctor, fundraiser, advocate for the homeless, refugee resettlement worker, ESL teacher, writing teacher, designer...

      I say "fuck" all the time & this was enough of a problem for me 40 years ago that I tried to curb it.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      A million dollars? Dentist, house and bit of land, couple of kids, and an animal rehab/no-kill shelter.

      I’d have a studio with a long arm machine and quilt for a living while kids slept as wee ones and went to school once older.

      What a career! Could pick your brains on everything you’ve done for everrrrrr

      [–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[M] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      So, I’m going address the flaming question by itself. I do not feel like it’s acceptable. That said, I really don’t want this space to become highly policed and I don’t believe the other mods do either. I interpret those rules as best I can, but if I’m not sure I’d rather leave more comments up than take more down.

      We can do better though. I feel like we should have parity for our moderators and two of three being trans isn’t doing that, so if you are a GC female and feel like you’d be a good moderator for this space, please DM me or another moderator. It shouldn’t be balanced this way.

      [–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      That all sounds fair far as I can see. I’m not super concerned about things like getting told to fuck off, just wanted some clarification on the rules there. I’m sure you’d not tolerate something that devolved into just hurling insults back and forth and it’s natural for things to get somewhat heated here, given what we debate.

      Cheers peaking. You’re a gem.

      [–]worried19 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Flaming and whether or not it’s acceptable here.

      Flaming is bad, but I also feel like the old sub was a little too ban happy. This is a much smaller space. I don't think we need such excessive moderation. But if people really can't behave themselves and keep attacking other posters, they might need a temporary suspension. Reserve banning for the really egregious stuff.

      What do you do for a living?

      To keep it vague, I'm in the general business field. I work in an office. Nothing that exciting.

      If you got a billion dollars what would you do to make yourself happy?

      Ha, I wouldn't want it. I hate the idea of being rich. I'd give most of it to charity and just buy some land and build a cabin in the woods for my partner and I to live in. I'd like to experiment with off grid life. Maybe get some livestock.

      What’s the last thing you made? Cooking, crafting, some kids?

      Soup, I guess. I'm not that creative.

      How frequently would you say the word ‘fuck’ in a week?

      At least a few hundred. It's a normal part of my vocabulary with my partner and friends.