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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I guess I’ll start by saying, I don’t really like reclaiming slurs in general. I feel like it would be better if people would just stop using slurs rather than try to reclaim them, but that’s just how I feel about it and other people can feel differently. Words like this one and other homophobic or misogynistic slurs that have been used to hurt me still make me uncomfortable. I don’t like hearing them, regardless of the context, and couldn’t imagine reclaiming them personally.

Even if I was alright with reclaiming slurs, I don’t feel like it would be appropriate for me to do that with homosexual male slurs. Even if we had similar childhoods, my life experience and challenges are very different than those of gay men. It would be wrong for me to try to speak for gay men so I feel like this would be wrong to do this too.

I feel like the worst thing though is straight or bi trans people, male or female, trying to reclaim slurs. That legitimately upsets me, because, I’m sorry, if you grew up straight I feel like you have no right to use words that hurt us as some sort of accessory to your new identity. I feel like some of them feel the same pleasure from those slurs that the boys and men who said them to me got, but now they have an excuse to say them. It truly makes my blood boil. 😡

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Thank you for sharing your perspective, I really appreciate it. I feel similarly about most of what you say.