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[–]bellatrixbells 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

As others have pointed out, it is actually unfair to put all of the "blame" on the mother and the father's attitude and own problems should definitely be taken into consideration ... however it is well known that psychotherapy is rooted in blaming the mother.

BUT. I was raised by a mother with BPD and boy, has it taken a toll on me and caused confusion regarding my identity and confusion regarding myself and my relation to the world. Whatever that's worth.

[–]MarkTwainiac 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Sorry to hear of your experience. I don't think anyone is minimizing the difficulty and impact of growing up with a mentally ill parent - or parents. But the OP is this thread asked people to read and respond to a psych paper that attempted to draw a direct line between young boys having GID and their mothers having "symptoms of depression" and meeting the diagnostic criteria for BPD.

Pointing out that are reasons to take issue with this academic paper, its methods, its dodgy fudging of numbers, the bad writing it contains, and the theories/thinking in and behind it on numerous grounds does not mean anyone is trying to deny the fact that a lot of parents were/are mentally ill in all sorts of ways. Nor is it the same as suggesting that parental mental illness does not and can not have myriad deleterious impacts on children, and their developing sense of self, view of the world and relationships with others outside the family.

Phillip Larkin's famous poem comes to mind: "They fuck you up, your mom and dad"...And those of us who had the misfortune to have parents who were particularly fucked up are bound to have be affected - and continue to be affected - in a whole bunch of ways that often make our journey through life rough going indeed.

[–]bellatrixbells 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I apologize. I misunderstood the topic it seems :)

Any mods feel free to delete :)

[–]MarkTwainiac 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No need to apologize - at least not to me! :)