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[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

however I don’t know that I have the right to say that and dismiss how other females may feel. If a female says she feels uncomfortable or unsafe with any male, regardless of GRS or identity,

I would not feel comfortable with any male in such spaces. When I was on a walk with my transsexual friend, who I am very sure is safe (homosexual one, 20+ years after surgery, etc) - I was still feeling uncomfortable, and either waiting until they finished and only then going to the toilet, or asking them to wait until I finished, gladly they were respecting my request (I still would prefer to enter second). Especially when I am on my period, or have some other issues with my body due to my health conditions - I will just feel very-very uncomfortable when someone who can't understand my struggle and can poses any potential threat or make fun of me or find disgusting what I am doing (like imagine changing your cup - go to cubicle, then go out of it and wash it out from blood, then go back to cubicle - and do this all while there male is present and watching it. Or imagine having miscarriage or cramps... I just can't, really, urgh). Especially in modern society, which removes tampon advertisements for showing periods from TV, because it is considered either "too gross" or "sexual". Menstruation stigma and taboo is way too powerful in any society in the world for now. I don't know how many more years or decades we need so society and men especially realise it is same as just breathing, or pee'ing, or anything, it is normal and natural, it is happening for dozen of years starting from when we are 10 years old and repeats monthly. There nothing sexual, gross or dirty in it.