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[–]CatbugMods allow rape victim blaming in this sub :) 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I’m saying that the rudeness has been earned.
Personally I don’t care one whit if men or liberal feminists think I am rude because my points are still standing. Being able to only address the tone in which it is delivered is a sign of having no responses.

What is often called rude is frustration, bluntness, or simply not couching our ideas in soft language. More often it is simply people disliking being told “no”.

What value is there in gently asking for rights?

[–]LemurLemur[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I’m saying that the rudeness has been earned.

So it's more "no one should have to be polite"? Or are there people/circumstances you feel people should be considerate of?

[–]CatbugMods allow rape victim blaming in this sub :) 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Nah, nuance doesn’t exist. People can only behave one way.🙄

[–]LemurLemur[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sorry, was that an inappropriate question to ask here?

[–]CatbugMods allow rape victim blaming in this sub :) 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No. I’m saying that your line of questioning, which is really just rephrasing people’s statements as the worst possible interpretation, without answering what’s asked of you, is the exact sort of thing that is so frustrating to so many of us.

Obviously politeness and niceness have their place. It’s weird and tangential to say someone being abrasive or blunt in one scenario must believe that being that way is the only way to be in all scenarios. You are ignoring nuance to rephrase something in a way that totally skews the meaning.