Homosexuality is innate, it is not some "preference", and we can not "unlearn love for pussy and accept penises". You know how many straight men said to me exactly the words that transwomen are saying to me nowadays? Sexuality does not work for genders it is about sex. For me, having synesthesia for smells, I can tell who is trans by just sniffing them, I do not need to see them, and my organism just does not work for it. I was born in homophobic society, where everything about homosexuality was banned, I always had crashes on women, but did not know that women can be together, later I was married on a man, as everyone was saying that it is impossible to be with women or to love women, however nothing was working, sexologist said I am frigid - I still really, really tried to get aroused, we tried everything and I was really wanting to become heterosexual or bisexual and love men, but nothing worked, I thought I am asexual. Gladly after divorce I met bisexual woman who was in USA and "frigidness" vanished like first snow under rain. Later students in my university saw I am kissing with woman, and beated the shit out of me after lessons, principle saw that but said nothing, she only stopped them from raping me, later I was fired from job when boss learned I am lesbian from somewhere, and all the time I had men around me trying to get into my panties, all were saying that "your husband was just bad in bed" or "bad person", a lot of men were saying "I love women and effeminate, so I am lesbian-man" (our language is gendered, so they were using masculine version of word lesbian), they were saying that "you just need to find good dick" or "my dick is special", sending me dickpics in social media. And you know what? Transwomen/transbians are almost all pre-op, and they are acting exactly the same, saying exactly same phrases, even sending me dickpics (I deleted my social media because of few stalkers from them), now just "I am effeminate and my dick is effeminate, so I am lesbian", "you just never tried transbian dick", "my dick is girldick, so it is special" and so on. They do not understand the homosexuality at all, all this is extremely homophobic, like really really strongly. Queer men and women are pushing from other side - most of them are straight, but still calling themselves lesbians and pushing around in social medial or news their view of lesbianism that has nothing to do with real lesbianism and more porn inducted or some weird stuff not connected to sexuality or sexual attraction. And the whole idea that gender-non-conforming women and lesbians must be a man is both homophobic and sexist. So many transmen are just young lesbians who are running away from this garbage and finding that it is the only way for them together in today's society. I can rant forewer, days and days. It is just same old sexism, with exactly same words, with exactly same victimisation and gaslighting, nothing has changed.

And if you interested - yes, I tried with post-op transwomen. And no, my body did not responded still, even tho neo-vagina visually looked very close to real one. However, everything in that person was not female, and that person did not know female body, feelings and zones as well, and female experience was lacking either, and even scent was absolutely different (and that person was on hormones for 20 years, since teen years), and neo-vagina was not able to self-lubricate as well, just everything was wrong and my body was not arousing, even thought I really tried.

And refusing someone sex - is not same as hating them. Not wanting to date someone or some group of people - is not same as hating them. When we are saying "no", this means no.

Homosexuality is not a choice, it can not be unlearned. If it was a choice - gays in Iran or Saudi Arabia would be just unlearning it and not being executed. If it was able to unlearn and learn new sexuality - I'd be still married and living happy life (my ex-husband was really good person, I am still friends with him, he may be one of the best men I know), but it can't be unlearned. It is just facts. Saying otherwise is homphobia, pushing dicks on lesbians - is homophobia. Sexual orientation is not someone's else validation. Saying "unlearn genital preferences" - is conversion therapy.