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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I know it’s not the same question, but how have you been socially punished for being feminine or rejecting masculinity?

[–]MezozoicGaygay male 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I had big problems with that around 20-30 years ago.

Nowadays, it is just people making inapropriate jokes all the time. Mostly jokes are "are you a gay, or something?" and most men are not taking me seriously, unless I do something "masculine". As I am not out for majority of people I know, homophobia is strong here. I don't think it will be a huge issue, but everything will become harder if they will know I am a gay. So better jokes and not taking serious, than even more jokes and "I am not turning with my back to you".

I am working in a pretty "masculine" place, on a factory, so people there are very rude. However, I am lucky that I am a "top" and dominating person, so I can stand my ground. So when they are trying to bully me or call out gay, I am answering something like "if you saying I am gay and try bully me, I will put you on your knees and f*uck you then". Strangely it is work, regardless of the fact that they are much stronger than me. So I may say that I am lucky, or maybe dominating personality and standing your ground is already enough to make such people to fear.

Before me here was one feminine guy too, who was not even gay, they bullied him, so he quit. Bullying was harsh, with damaging his uniform multiple times when he had free days, they broke his locker too.