GC: How have you been socially punished for rejecting femininity?

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[–]ActualTomboy 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I feel more like I was punished for being born female. Not by my family, but by pretty much everyone and everything else.

Most well paying jobs still aren't achievable without a conventionally professional appearance. Women are still not considered professional without makeup in most settings. To this day, some bosses may even directly insist on heels. Most bosses are still older men. The amount of people that don't take women as seriously by default regularly leaves me in disbelief and is at times beyond my level of patience.

Sexists and sexist double standards are everywhere. It never ends. I'm a former top 50 player in my game of choice, and I never even speak on comms anymore. Dealing with sexist stereotypes is a constant pain both in life and tenfold in game. The level of hate some ebois have is unreal.

[–]worried19[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, it amazes me that it's still legal in America for companies to enforce sexist dress codes and tell women they must wear makeup or high heels.

I'm not sure what industry you're in. I'm in the general business field and have not had any problems with being GNC. I was worried I might have trouble finding a job after college, but that wasn't the case. I actually got hired before my partner did, and we were both job hunting at the same time. My impression is that some industries are worse than others.

[–]zephyranthes 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel more like I was punished for being born female.

This! I've been working at my current company for two years now, and men still won't greet me. Some even recoil in horror when they greet each other in a crowd and then remember there's (gasp!) a female intruder in their midst, or when they see my t-shirt and short hair from the back and run up and extend their hand. Ewww, gross!

(They don't greet the women from another department either. Unlike me, all three of them are upper management and style themselves in a way that would be socially unacceptable for a man: skirts, heels, makeup, extravagant hair, etc).

Women are still not considered professional without makeup in most settings.

...but not this. I've never been pressured to change my appearance either because I'm female or toward "femininity" in any way (one boss banned jeans for everyone and I ignored it, but I was the only one non-lawyer so no one cared).