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[–]worried19[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Do you have moral qualms about any of it?

There are people out there who sexualize extreme things like rape, slavery, and the Holocaust.

[–]Porcelain_QuetzalTabby without Ears 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes and no. Maybe. It's complicated. I can't say that I have no moral qualms with what most people would consider problematic like rape or setting a scene in Auschwitz. But I don't consider the act of playing out these scenes itself immoral at all. The bigger issue for me personally is when people start to boast about these scenes outside of kink places. While it's usually understood in the kink community that setting a scene during the Holocaust is mostly set dressing or the play during that scene to spark both the sub and Doms imagination, this is likely lost in more vanilla spaces and could take the focus of the actual tragedies that occurred during this time.

The reason why I don't judge people who engage in this sort of play might be, because I myself have kinks that would easily be considered immoral. Especially given my personal history my testimony on these might be used by bad actors to justify their harm of innocent people. I have seen a few people in my kinks community express the sentiment and while some shot them down immediately others weren't as quick call out their frankly horrible sentiments.

The reason I don't judge those seeking to play out their kinks is because, at least for me, my kink isn't as much a want as it is a need. It's something I'm struggling with quite often and I have done things that I am not proud of to get my fix. The only person harmed was me, just to be clear.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

my kink isn't as much a want as it is a need.

How can fulfilling a kink be a need?

(not judging, just trying to understand)

[–]Porcelain_QuetzalTabby without Ears 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

On one hand im just not satisfied unless I get it the way I need and on the other I can't really think about anything else unless I'm satisfied. I'm aware that this is really pathetic on so many levels, but I honestly can't help it.Due to my past and dysphoria I can just set aside this craving most of the time, but if I actually have sex It usually doesn't leave me satisfied. Maybe it's a fetish, but I don't need it to get aroused so I'm honestly not sure.