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[–]scrunchie 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

This is what reinforced blackpill for me. I spent the last weekend with my two cousins who both have very young kids. I will call them cousin A and B for anonymity's sake. Cousin A has a 3 1/2 year old girl and a 1 1/2 year old boy. Cousin B has a 2 1/2 year old boy. Cousin B is one of those moms who does everything to raise her son without outside influence such as not allowing screentime, internet, or really any outside influences. Cousin B buys non-gendered coded toys and clothes for her son, does not even allow plastic toys to enter the home and does not allow violent toys. She puts genuine effort into regularly teaching empathy and respect.

Can you guess what cousin B's son did to cousin A's daughter? He used every opportunity to terrorize her with non-consensual full body kisses, hugs, groping, clothing removal, and anything that she was very obviously uncomfortable with. He not just smiled but grinned every single time he was able to get his barrage of unwanted kisses in.

He absolutely reveled in sexually harassing her and would only temporarily stop when adults intervened. The look on the young boys face is absolutely unforgettable, sexually tormenting her was when he was at his happiest. Nothing else made him experience a similar amount of joy that weekend, not even being offered the desert he really wanted.

The look on cousin A's daughters face was always sheer terror, she genuinely froze many times because she was so disturbed and disgusted by what he was doing to her because he just would not take no for an answer. She was mortified and he loved every moment of it and was in very obvious immense pleasure.

This is natural male behavior and it starts so early. What really drove this home for me was the fact that cousin B's son does not know any other children so there is no possible way that this was "socialized" into him by any other child or adult. This is a boy who is not even allowed to watch TV, so he didn't learn this from media either.

Another observation was that he did not make any effort to sexually torment cousin A's son despite cousin B raising him a gender neutral environment. This shows that identifying females as potential victims is something that is just coded into their DNA, you can't avoid it or train it out of them.

Cousin B was shocked by her sons behavior and extremely disappointed, she told me that she felt like a failure and that she must be a bad mom. She totally thinks that her sons behavior is her fault despite being an incredibly involved mother who does everything to teach her son compassion and boundaries. I wanted to outright tell her that there was nothing she could have done to prevent this behavior in any male child, but it did not seem like an appropriate time for a blackpill.

Cousin A's face showed sheer terror similar to her daughter's. We had a conversation about this outside of Cousin B's earshot and she said that this experience was like an omen for the future. She said that the look on her daughters face as she froze caused a movie-reel of thoughts about the horrors her daughter will experience by the men and boys around her as she goes through life. She said that she saw her daughters spirit evaporate as cousin B's son violated her. She felt hopeless about being able to protect her daughter from future trauma.

I can see why this was horrifying for cousin A to witness.. her daughter is normally full of life, assertive, and tomboyish. Her daughter's sense of self absolutely wilted as she was being sexually traumatized by cousin B's son. This is a girl who has the type of personality to take on the world without fear because of her immense self confidence and curiosity... but this little boy was able to take that power away from her within seconds.

It more than sickened me to see that a boy who was not even three years old was able to master and wield the techniques that grown men use to make women feel small, powerless, and like sexual prey.

They are ABSOLUTELY born this way.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

Does Cousin B's mother shower him in affection and kisses? Does he observe this behavior from his parents? You're attributing sexual behavior to a toddler, you have to understand how fucked up that is.

[–]scrunchie 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

Does Cousin B's mother shower him in affection and kisses?

No.

You're attributing sexual behavior to a toddler, you have to understand how fucked up that is.

I have been spending the last week wrestling with my thoughts because of that being fucked up but I cannot deny what happened over and over to her daughter. This is a boy who listens to 'no' about many things and seems to understand most boundaries. Yet he was reveling in kissing and licking her everywhere, forcibly removing her clothing, and groping her as she was obviously in immense distress and objecting to his repeated behavior. What do you call that besides forceful sexual harassment? Even if you call it something else you cannot change what happened, cannot change his actions, and cannot change this being an example of males discovering that they enjoy wielding such behavior against females at such an early age. He did not learn this behavior, he learned that he likes indulging in it.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Things toddlers revel in: taking their clothes off constantly, licking windows, eating things from the floor, putting everything in their mouths, new and exciting facial expressions, playing with their own shit, being stupid.