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[–]jet199 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

So agreeability is one of the big personality traits common in women across all cultures. Likely it's innate.

Most members of this sub are clearly in the minority of women who don't have it.

However that's not necessarily a bad thing. Agreeability is toxic to creativity. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S019188691100287X If you are nice and spend all your energy oiling the social wheels you aren't going to concentrate on your dreams and ideas.

Stop worrying about the major of women who are quite happy doing their thing no matter how nasty it looks. You have a gift that you get to be selfish with ease and go for want you want without guilt, use it.

Some of middle aged women literally have to go on courses just to learn they can make time for themselves. That concept is beyond my imagining and I'm glad.

[–]burntwaffle 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

ha I scored 'very low'. I like your theory. You are correct that women like us should not worry about the majority of agreeable women. It is a waste of time to worry about and there is nothing we can do to change it. funny about the middle aged women taking classes to take time for themselves... I have one in my life that did this. she has spent her entire life doing extra shit for everyone in her life, especially the men in her family. of course the men never appreciated it or returned the favor. it ended up driving her crazy in middle age and impacted her mental health immensely. she literally had to have someone teach her to stop being such a doormat and how to worry about herself instead of everyone else. I would never put myself in a situation like that. Her self-detrimental behavior always puzzled me. The saddest part is that her people-pleasing behavior does not seem to make people like her more, it is not appreciated but expected and then resented. I am glad that I do not have that sort of stress, sounds like a nightmare.

[–]palma 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

yeah I just took the test: https://www.truity.com/test/how-agreeable-are-you "Your overall score for Agreeableness is very low" "Your level of altruism is low." "Your level of cooperation is low." "Your level of sympathy is low" LOL

[–]Airbus320 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

A good result!