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[–]kt0998 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (16 children)

Most straight women aren't even attracted to men, just their status. This is one of the weirdest things to me as a straight woman who never gave a damn about man's money or status. But most straight women will fuck any hideous, evil, misogynist freak if he is seen as successful "alpha" male.

[–]sassafras 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (14 children)

What did you care about?

Somewhat related: I don’t understand why so many claim they find men’s genitals icky. Am I alone in that?

[–]kt0998 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (12 children)

Looks are really the only thing that I'm interested in guys tbh. I don't want to live as dependent on their money/status and their personalities are shit, but I'm still 100% straight and much more visually attracted to men than most hetero women. And no, I don't find dicks particularly icky and I find the "eeew men, how could anyone be into them" rhetoric kinda tiresome because some of us are born straight and with high sex drive and that's not something you can just turn off. I think it's mostly lesbians and low-sex drive straights who say that.

[–]Iknowitstrue[S] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'm straight and have a very high sex drive and i'm still repulsed by men to the point that i feel like puking when i see their faces and dicks are ugly, i didn't feel this way only just for a year when i was stupid, groomed and hated myself and desired to be dominated by men, it was just masochistic, now i and would never serve them sexually even tho i'm horny and straight i don't desire men sexually cause i know who they really are and i know the truth about their sexuality, i'm also very visual so i only find 0.1% of men attractive and they must be 18-27yo . i dont desire to be naked with men anymore but i have this desire to just bond with women not sexually, just be with women it feels natural, also just being naked aeound women seems natural and i dont mean in a sexual way it just feels therapeutic

[–]Seekers 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Agreed.

[–]lurkergirl 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Pretty boys or daddydoms?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

If you don't mind me asking, what type of man do you find attractive in terms of looks?

I'm bi and though I prefer to be alone, I do find well-built and well-dressed men to be attractive, as well as men with handsome faces. Bonus points if he has nice hair lol.

I remember a post on pinkpillfeminism where a woman pointed out that men are only truly attractive with one body type, while women can be attractive or presentable with any body type, as long as its not an unhealthy extreme such as obesity or undernourishment. There are women who are attractive whether they're slim, curvy, skinny, fat, petite, tall, or somewhere in between. Men, however, only look really good when they stay in shape or have an active build. I agree with this poster. I don't think scrawny men, fat men, couch potato men, or men with "dadbods" are physically attractive. It's also easier for able-bodied men to lose fat and build muscle in comparison to women, so they have no excuse. It doesn't mean they have to be over-the-top roided muscular, but even wanting a guy to be in-shape is considered asking for "too much."

I will never, ever understand why the hell a woman would want to risk her life messing around with an ugly man. If its for the money or clout, she can get that with an attractive rich or famous man too.

Men don't consider unattractive women to be human, yet women are expected to give ugly men a chance if he has something else going for him, such as money or personality. Even in a shallow, casual hook up culture, some women still waste their time on scraggly or goblin-looking guys.

Edit: To add on, I see a lot of straight girls going crazy for male Kpop idols. I think there are a lot of straight girls and women out there who are very visual. Men in Kpop dress well, have nice hair, wear makeup, and have a 'pretty boy' look with fit and in-shape body types. I know the industry is far from healthy (and men are shitty everywhere), but it's an indicator that straight women do openly care about visuals, when they're not shamed for it.

[–]kt0998 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

I don't have one specific type. I think skinny can be cute if a guy is young and has nice boyish look , but overall yes, men need some muscle and pretty low fat percentage to look at all attractive. Fat especially destroys all attractiveness in a guy since it makes him look soft and attractive features in men are all about sharp angles, whether it's a skinny model or body builder. I've never been into old guys, the "fine wine" crap is just bs, women find older men attractive due to the increase in social status and money, men's looks go down hard after 25, more so than women because men do nothing to take care of themselves. 90% of men are zero effort slobs and would look much better if they gave a damn, but they hate the idea of having to please a woman like that. This is why even male Hollywood stars choose to look like hobos with awful beards and looking like they smell, because men want every woman to lust for them but HATE the idea of having to make any effort or being a visual sex object, who is under constant gaze and evaluation by women. They know it sucks and they hate it.

I like beautiful faces, slightly androgynous but still boyish/masculine. I enjoy looking at classical paintings with beautiful men or fashion editorials. One reason why it's easy for me as a hetero woman to be celibate is that my visual standards are too high lol. Yes, women will fuck ugly men who suck at sex and don't even get an orgasm out of it. Reading women's stories about their gross Tinder hook-ups where they let some dirty unemployed stoner use them as sex toy makes me cringe so hard. They always write these stories like they are universally relatable to all women, it drives me crazy. Kpop fandoms and other boyband fandoms are interesting because teenage girls do have visual standards but when they grow up, this seems to change for majority. I suspect most women's priorities change when they mature and they start to chase the "provider" (successful genes/resources for child). Korea also does seem to have slightly different culture where men are expected to groom themselves and you don't see as much beautiful women paired with fugly dudes in their media (from what I've seen).

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I don't mind skinny guys, but I definitely think fat, chubby, and overweight men are unattractive. I agree, fat on men isn't flattering like it can be with some women. Men with double chins, beer bellies, and overall roundness are major turn-offs. Society should be more brutal towards weight gain in men than women. Society should be more brutal towards men's physical appearance in general. I have no sympathy towards men who whine about being judged for their height or dick size when women are judged for everything else. When it comes to objectification, men can dish it, but they can't take it.

I also fully agree on the "fine wine" line being complete bullshit. Most men don't take care of their skin, diet, and physical appearance in general like women do. Men are also more likely to do hard drugs, smoke, and drink in excess, leaving a mark on their outer appearance. At the top of my head, popular actors like Leonardo DiCaprio and Brad Pitt looked way better when they were younger. Even Keanu Reeves, who still looks fairly good for his age, was more handsome when he was in his twenties.

Straight and bi women should have higher standards for men. It's embarrassing when a girl who looks like she spends hours getting ready goes out with a guy who looks like he hasn't moved from his couch in seven years. I can't relate to not caring about physical attraction, and I hate it when women act like it's "normal" to not care about a man's looks.

But you're right that once women start panicking about settling down and having kids, they compromise and go for a schlubby guy, as long as he's reliable and stable. Men, on the other hand, never stop obsessing over beauty and sex appeal, and they forever feel entitled to leer at young and beautiful women.

As for Korea, I think the men there are encouraged to groom themselves more and keep in shape, or at least be thin. Here in the US, the bar is so low. Like you said, plenty of male Hollywood stars could pass for hobos. Straight men who put a sliver of effort into their appearance were called metrosexual in the past, but I think that idea hasn't gone away. If an American guy is well-groomed, dresses fashionably, and stays fit, men and women alike would probably assume he's gay because the idea of a man putting effort into his looks to please a woman is inconceivable.

[–]lurkergirl 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

You might like the show "Hannibal" for male eye candy. The guy who wrote it was gay, hence what it is.

[–]Airbus320 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Ew gay

[–]Iknowitstrue[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

All the men in porn or on reddit nsfw subs literally have dad bods and its so gross, once i saw this porn video of an beautiful angel looking thin woman, everything shaved etc with this ugly HAIRY(everywhere!!!) overweight man with flabby legs and fat stomach and ugly dick BRUTALLY fucking her and legit screamed cause there SO MUCH couples like this like once i also saw this photo on reddit from this couple where this beautiful thin blonde woman was kneeling in front of a man with ugly hairy dad body wirh ugly small dick and she had yellow cum on her face

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