For 5 out of 6 years of my identifying as a radfem it just felt wrong somehow. I felt guilty deep inside for being up in the arms about male crap ("they are socialized into it like we are!") and women's crap too (what if we don't recruit most women to our cause eventually? must I be nicer to fucking nasty trads?). I felt like something was off about "blank slate" argument when there are whole countries full of men who are ok with living in a pigsty long as they get to be slave-masters over females and when there are signs of male violence on prehistoric bones and when male animals gang rape too. I thought I was a misogynist for wanting het women to just stay the fuck away from males and teach heir daughters the same. I figured I had no place criticizing any activists, because they push petitions and plead with bigwigs, and I live in bumfuck nowhere in a country that incarcerates politically active people since forever.
Because, you know, if you went to old GC or Feminist Current or other biggish radfem platforms or blogs that's what a lot of them are pushing. They ridicule and slander any woman who refuses to project their humanity onto men and accept "patriarchy is 1000% socialization against people's will" anti-science idiocy and police each other to remain moderate and pro-breeding. They define feminist activism as cooperation with male power structures and devalue community-building and grassroots. They allow no discussion of marriage and breeding being oppressive, but do shittalk younger women from onlyfans for ruining their boys (lol). They shit on separatists for stating the obvious and have discussions on indoctrinating their daughters to be good little hets: how do I condition my daughter to accept that males are shit, but not disincourage her to date them? Should I just ban het from dating till 18 so that there is more life for the male to suck out? Should I let her get fucked by 14 to get her used to male shittiness?
And then you have those who helped to shape the community. Let's take, for example Glosswitch, a pro journalist, I remember she was reposted a fair bit. Few articles without mentioning being a proud stay-at-home boymom of 3. But she's not like other moms, she lets them wear Elza dresses! Articles stating that nearly all women breeding is the norm, so radfems must support "stay-at-home parenting" programs that in some countries only conservatives push. Apologetic articles for women's rights because we breed white boys (future taxpayers). Woman = white boy incubator, got it.
Or Gail Dines, well-known anti-porn radfem. Find her public lectures on youtube - she'll say how she loves her Nigel and how her small son changed her view of men. So she believes that porn turns men into shit, and not that porn is shit because males are shit. Her boys and menz can't be shit, she's a feminist.
Or the owner of Feminist Current. She's a productive activist, but writes articles like "i love men and wear make up and im a radfem yay" and "don't criticize other gc feminists especially me plz". She is really antagonistic against separatism, her podcast about a separatists book begins with "it's totally stupid cuz we can't expect women to say no to dick and it's bad to expect hets to be single". But the true colors only really show when she's on her youtube channel as a semi-private person.
Here's a random vid on her channel I clicked on where Meghan is just being herself: The Same Drugs: Weird bodies, bad women, and flawed feminism, around minute 30:
"I love men!" "Men oppressing women as a class as is just a theory!" "I've read all those books about patriarchy and they have little to do with reality!" "Women seek out objectification (so do I!) and pretend to be harassed!" "Most men want to help women to live better, actually!"
She also says that she was abused by feminists, so she surrounds herself with wonderful menz. Well, fuck, Meg, if you spoke down to any just feminist-leaning woman from your high horse and said that gaslighting nonsense she'd get a tad upset too. Why the fuck did I ever buy into any of that, Glad to find "pill" subs.
If anybody remembers sexpozzi ex-libfem pickme Lacey Green - she said that "feminism is just escapism" about her quitting to get dicked by an incel bf, and I used to think "well, your stupid non-feminism sure is! Us radicals are serious!". Well fuck, turns out that's where radfem is too.
TL;DR: a fuckton of radfems keep their Raging Feminist Conciousness in a small separate box which they put away when not in a flock, and would silence and gaslight any woman who calls out their willing cooperation. "100% Socialization" gives them an exuse to live vicariously through sons and nigels. Happy peaking day to me.