I came across the current scandal/gossip about actor Armie Hammer (who I know nothing about and don't intend to find out). I've only read few articles, but basically he's into BDSM and several women have "come forward" to claim they were fucking him (as submissives) and he was abusive, controlling, narcissistic, toxic and crossed the line into rape blah blah.

Like countless other MeToo-type accusations, everything these women accuse Hammer is in the legal/moral grey zone. Meaning, there is no real proof of anything being non-consensual, just proof of consensual BDSM that they claim "went too far". Most are some kind of models/ethots. At least one accuser is apparently underage (17). A lot (all?) of these accusations seem to be made online.

Now, I don't doubt that this guy is a misogynist rapey freak, because every male (and especially every male who identifies as a fucking "dom") is. Apparently Hammer comes from some rich family and his dad and grandad have been accused of rape and incest (lovely family).

But everything about this case is so infuriating to me. All these women willingly got into these BDSM relationships with him. They are accusing him of "manipulating" them into them, but there are screencaps of messages and it's just typical kink crap. It's obvious all the women were willing and happy to find a rich, handsome, famous "daddy dom" to spank them and play-rape them. Just like in 50 Shades of Grey! We are supposed to accept that these women, most of who are adults, are victims here. Who were manipulated/pressured/gaslighted into something they didn't want. Like they were innocent maidens who never had a naughty thought in their head and just happened to fall into hardcore D/s sex with a famous guy. Bullshit. It's OBVIOUS that they were willing and this is a case of regret (and maybe trying to get money/fame, but I feel like it's mostly motivated by regret and shame). They felt ashamed for letting a man treat them like that, even though they enjoyed it at the time and consented to it. They played with rape fantasies and claim things crossed the line, but really, what did they expect? They got into a relationship where the line between consent and non-consent was intentionally blurry, because they WANTED that.

I just find myself hating these stupid, useless women. Seriously, I'm starting to think that submissive hetero women are not capable of independence, they need to be put back to the kitchen and under the protection of their dads, brothers and husbands for their own protection. They are biologically incapable in the life of modern emancipated woman, and they just spent their entire lives drifting from one bad man onto another, always getting used up and discarded like old cumrags, every abuse making them more traumatized and even less capable of standing up for themselves.
Because how fucking stupid and pathetic can you get, to let a man use you like a worthless whore, like it, and then act like a victim afterwards to get empathy? Everything about these women is pathetic and makes me feel so embarrassed to be a woman. I'm grossed out by the man in this story too, but I almost can't blame men like him for disrespecting and taking advantage of these braindead women. They were literally begging him to do it! Though I guess the women are victims of their own biology too. And I'm extremely skeptical of claims about rape when the context is a relationship where rape fetish is the whole point. Despite what the sex-positive propaganda claims, it's impossible to draw a clear line in a relationship like that because real BDSM relationships will never work like in some PC script with 24/7 safewords.

Equally pathetic is to read all these comments by women who are talking like the "victims" did nothing wrong and it's totally normal and understandable for women to let men to talk them into these kind of relationships. Like r/armiehammerreceipts which is just a huge circle jerk of these women enforcing each others in having completely irresponsible attitude and talking about Hammer like he has some mind-control powers. Anyway, I hope MeToo culture dies soon, it's completely watered down what rape and abuse mean.