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[–]bbbarbican 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Most women want to be mothers and they are prepared to go to great lengths to accomplish that goal, even to the detriment of their physical and mental health. A friend of mine wants a kid even though she is not fit for it physically (and maybe even mentally), she will be put on some artificial hormones to get her periods to come back. I think that's mad and that she has a rosy view of motherhood and is bound to be disappointed but nothing I could say would ever change her mind. So I don't say anything. One of my colleagues had a kids a few years ago, he's severely disabled. Now she's trying to have another, injecting herself three times a day with hormones. It's obvious she wants a 'replacement' kid because the first one is disabled. She's had two miscarriages already. I think that when your body can't get pregnant then that's a sign that maybe you should accept you won't have another child. The rest of the office tells her that she 'deserves' another kid and that she will be a great mother and I just cringe internally but again, what can I say? She doesn't need or care for my opinion. So I keep my mouth shut.

Statistics that show that women still do most of the raising, cleaning and taking care of kids are freely available. Yet women still want kids and delude themselves that the father will 'help' He won't and they will be exhausted and resentful but on the other hand, they would be miserable without kids.

All this to say that I don't care about motherhood ultimately. Women freely choose to be mothers and nothing I say or do would change that. I know perfectly well that my antinatalist views are in the minority. I'm not interested in fighting for women who have no issue with motherhood and who simply would like their men to be a bit more helpful and that's it. In fact I'm not interested in fighting for women at all. It's pointless. I enjoy reading the based opinions on here because they are interesting and make me think and I agree with a lot of them.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I understand. Thank you for the candid response.

In fact I'm not interested in fighting for women at all. It's pointless.

Sigh.