I'm not sure what you want to hear? If you believe that Scandinavia has no sexism and gender roles then you're not blackpilled because BP is about recognizing that these things are biological and universal. The passive aggressiveness comes from not being able to openly be sexist, so men are frustrated about it and resent feminism (big MRA culture online), and women complain all the time about how men here aren't "real men", this is also why scandi women like foreigners like those from Middle-East who are more "masculine" (read: dominant and sexist) and scandi men get a lot of wives from Thailand and Russia. It's obvious that people here pretend to be very progressive but in practice women still do most housework, we have less women in STEM than less progressive countries, men are all porn addicts etc. But if you don't believe it, just move here and marry a scandi man, then you wont have to ever deal with sexism.