Well, his whole closeting story and the nature of abuse he receives just feels familiar. He dated a girl at Harvard, at least, and managed to stay functioning while closeted for a decade afterward. He was in Afghanistan and then ran a political campaign. Then he comes out apparently at the time he's decided he wants to get married, and finds a husband within a year. I'm certainly cynical and harsh, and I don't think he did anything wrong, but coming out in your thirties is more the realm of bisexuals than homosexuals.

It would also explain why he's so closed off and aloof with his gay identity. He isn't gay. A lot of people seem to think he might have Aspergers, which I don't think is likely. His interests are social- languages, public service, politics. Aspies have a hard time learning languages.

I think the simpler answer is he seems awkward and uncomfortable with gay culture because it doesn't come naturally to him and he spent most of his youth separated from it. He at some point realized he wanted to partner with a man and then did so. Not a bad thing! But I wonder if that's what's up with him. He's still closeted, just in a roomier closet.

I've seen interviews where he talks about the military, or Southbend, he lights up and is very animated and engaging. He's obviously being propped up as a sort of official gay role model, so I can't help but play armchair psychologist or whatever. It's too tempting 😉