What can we do about the colossal proportion of closeted bis?

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[–]Nani 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Very blue but religious area of the US. Bis are seen as pomiscus and unable to decide.

[–]usehername[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Do you really think that's the biggest reason? It's the only reason that's ever brought up in these discussions and bi people are always complaining about it. I know those mean things are kinda hurtful, but it's really no big deal compared to the massive amount of homophobia (internalized and otherwise) they're grappling with.

[–]Nani 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For me at least its a leading cause of my internalized homophobia. So story time. I initially came out as a lesbian as a young teen and had a girlfriend all through high school. I had to overcome some homophobia but it was mostly exterior. In college I had my first crush on a man and honestly it threw me for a loop. Family that had accepted me as a lesbian became less accepting if I showed any further intrest in woman and honestly I struggle internally more with it. Almost like I'm a poser for "choosing" to still have homosexual inclinations. Kinda like a non binary identity.

Does any of that make sense?

[–]usehername[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah that definitely makes sense. It just seems like more homophobia from them, though. Like "oh thank god, she can be turned" and they desperately don't want you to "go back". Sorry you had to go through that with your family.